Okay. I have a boyfriend. and We have been together for a little over 3 months. I love him so much and I was to have sex with him. But for some reason I'm so afriad of getting pregnant. I know I can use birth control and condoms but I'm still afriad. I mean I'm still a virgin. Am I stupid for still being afriad? I really want to have sex with him. I love him a lot! What would you do?
2006-07-31 09:10:49 · 27 answers · asked by AngelicaMarie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This is something only YOU will know the answer to. When you are ready for sex and your boyfriend is ready for sex THEN it will happen. Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend about it... find out JUST how much he loves you!!
2006-07-31 09:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by NaVy WiFeY 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are not ready for that step. It is still early in your relationship and If you are underage it is another reason. I don't know why people are in such a hurry to grow up. Sex isn't the only thing in a relationship that makes it right. Respect, trust, compassion, responsibility, and the biggest of all is understanding.
Love yourself enough to wait. If your boyfriend truly loves you he will wait. Please don't let anyone pressure you into having sex (friends, boyfriend) because it can hurt you in the long run. I have seen to many young mothers out there alone. SO think about it before you do it. You sound like a smart person, you know about birth control and YOU Know your not ready. You are ahead of the game already dear.
Take care.
2006-07-31 16:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by trouble comes a knockin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Goodness. If you have to ask people if you should have sex, you're definitely not ready. And understand that once you give it up, you can never get it back again... So you're sure you want to give it to someone you've only known for 3 months???
Bad decision. I say wait.
And no birth control is perfect. Condoms break, pills fail, etc. You HAVE to think... Are you ready to carry a baby full term if it DOES happen? Or are you OK with aborting a human being?
Can't you talk to your mom or older sister, or cousin or other person in your life about this? Support is very important.
2006-07-31 16:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Saffire♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're under the age of 18 I suggest you don't have sex at all. Not only are you most likely not mature enough to handle the mental and physical aspects of sex it's also illegal in most states for persons under the age of 18 to have sex.
You're not stupid at all for being afraid. I'm 21 years old, and sometimes sex still scares me from time to time depending on the situation.
Also, loving someone isn't a good enough reason to have sex with them. You must think, are you in love with him as well? Because loving someone and being IN love with someone are completely different things.
You just need to calm down and really think about it. Sex isn't just something casual to be used and thrown about. Especially if it's your first time.
2006-07-31 16:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by CartoonFreak1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on age. Over21 and think you are emotionally up to it if he gets what he wants and dumps you? Still a kid? Make a life for yourself before you make another life. You are not stupid for being afraid of getting pregnant. Birth controls are not 100% foolproof. Picture yourself completing your education, or trying to hold two low end salary jobs while juggling a sick or colicky or teething or just cranky and crying baby,and most likely,by yourself...He loves you, right? Where is his promise of commitment?
2006-07-31 16:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by doggy mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're stupid. There are a lot of things to be worried about-including STDs.
Also, at 3 months, I'd say wait. Losing your virginity is huge. And, it makes it that much harder to move on if the relationship doesn't work.
I'd wait a few more months, at least.
2006-07-31 16:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your afraid then hes not the one that felling is overriding your hormones when the right guy is with you you wont be afraid .you can love a person a lot without sex. i was a virgin and i had a lot of boyfriends that i really liked and even thought about having sex with but something held me back and my first was my husband
2006-07-31 16:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by mommdg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do this! Why don't you wait until you have been with him for at least a year or so. Then I still wouldn't. Why not wait until the perfect time comes. When you are ready and don't have any concerns. If he cares anything about you he will understand. Sex isn't everything. Take care.
2006-07-31 16:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by bad boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not stupid. This is a very risky behavior, no matter what happens. If you want to have sex with this guy - and I'm sorry to say this - but you have to be willing to risk the consequences. That's life, sometimes.
2006-07-31 16:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you then that boy friend will understand and be very afraid if your not ready for kids then your not ready 4 sex. will your boyfriend really be there if you get pregnant and what will it do 4 you future
2006-07-31 16:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by stefania_n2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋