i cheated on my husband 2 months Ago and now i'm 2 months pregnant ...?

Question

i donot know who the father is, if my Hunband or my lover , i 'm not sure if i should tell my husband about my cheating and if i tell him it will probably be finish what can i do ? tell or not to tell him?

i cheated with my brother in law , we went to a party and i got drunk the nest thing i know we were sleeping together , my husband was traveling for 3 days and the next day i cheated he arrive home and also have sex with him .

i didnot cheat on my husband coz i dont love him it was practically an accident coz i got Drunk i dont know if my Brother in law took advantage of me while i was drunk , i dont love this guy it happend just onces and after that no more coz it was just an accident .

Answer 1

cough cough cough ho cough cough,..sry, allergies acting up there..
Umm lets see here,..I'm thinking tell him? You could actually live with yourself knowing u may have someone elses kid and hubby think its his? Women like you belong at the bottom of the ocean

And by the way, theres this new thing that came out called birth control, ok? Comes in several ways.One is this pill you take everyday and voila, no babies, it's pretty cool.It even has a round container thingie that has the days of the week on it, so simple the dumbest of all dumb could do it! Or hey, theres a patch thing u can get too.Or you can even get a shot now and no period at all, wow!! Or theres these rubber like thingies that you can put on the man's, uhh, unit, and they seem to work fairly well too. Those are just a few, i mean if your gonna be a cough cough ho ho cough cough ,.(sry, those allergies again) if you MUST cheat, least use your head.But i think the best idea is the ocean....

Good luck!!!

Answer 2

Ouch! I'm tempted to ask why on earth you weren't extra careful since you were cheating. Why haven't you and your husband gotten pregnant before this? Perhaps something doesn't work on his end if you have been having unprotected sex and haven't gotten pregnant, if thats the case you are flat busted. What an awful situation, they can help you calculate date of conception at the dr's at least to a pretty close certainty, but if you were doing them both the same day who knows. I'd say if they are close enough in appearance to get away with it then shut up about it, however it can bite you in the *** much later down the line, blood types, medical issues things like that could get you busted anytime. Tough situation, good luck.

Answer 3

LOL that is sure is funny about you saying i don't cheat on my husband because I don't love his brother. First of all you knew what going to happen if you both drank too much and second of all see what drinks you do can really lead you to this plm.

Now you love your husband and you don't love his brother. And you had sex with his brother wake up find out that you slept with him and then 3 days later your husband came home and you had sex. and then now you found out you are pregnant. But not sure who is the father for that baby. Husband or Brother in law?

Umm you not sure if you should tell him or not. I think your brother in law wouldn't want to feel guilty forever and would want to tell his brother how it happen. and if found out that you cheating on him and blame on his brother in law for both getting drunk and find each other in bed. and Found out that the husband baby is not his belong to brother in law knowing that you don't love him and he do or not love you. and you lost your husband.

I know you watch commerical where stated that pls drink responsibility. I know you see all the time and you ignore and ha ha made it happen. So good luck to you.

Answer 4

You need to find out when you got pregnant. Every woman has an open window of time to get pregnant. So, if its your husband's child and you don't want to tell of the affair then its alright. If its not his and a really good chance of it not being his you need a DNA test done. Then, you are going to have to come clean. Have you thought about this? Do you want a baby right now even it is your husband's? Are you all in a emotionaly stable place to raise a child?

Answer 5

That is just sad. I honestly do not have advice for you but I can't believe you would do something like that to your husband, and to cheat with your brother in law - of all people!! You are in a mess of a situation with a baby on the way that your husband will think is his. The guilt alone should drive you insane. I am sorry you made such a bad decision.

Answer 6

You sound like my wife. She got pregnant with another man's child and had an abortion about three months ago. She didn't tell me and I had to find out from a friend of hers that she had been sleeping with him for months. She came home and made love to me 30 minutes after she had sex with him. I caught her in a lie and she bolted. She filed a restraining order because she thinks I will hurt her after finding out and she has file for a divorce. She won't even talk to me. I would suggest that you be a big girl and tell him about it before he has to hear from some body else. My wife also had an affair with my brother about 12 years ago. She told me about it and we worked it out. If you love your husband, then tell him the truth and do not get an abortion; IT MIGHT BE HIS!!!!!! You took the chance and did something wrong, now face up to it and try to work out your marriage. I would also go to church and ask God for forgiveness. If he doesn't want you anymore, you should have thought about that when you spread your legs for another man. You have violated his trust and his honor and that it something YOU are going to have to make up for. YOU are going to have to be faithful or ask him for a divorce. He doesn't deserve to have sloppy seconds with the woman he married. He should not have to share you with any one. You just destroyed a man's pride and that is something only he can forgive you for. SO ASK FOR HIM FORGIVENESS and hope for the best, but don't treat him like he's the bad guy. YOU ARE!!!!!! But remember this: ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.

Answer 7

I was in the same place you are in now. I fessed up and told him i was PG with his or his brothers baby. I wish i hadn't now he no longer looked at me the same way. He loves the baby as his own and we are still together and he would not take a thing for that child but.... i lost a gr8 deal that day i opened my mouth and told. If the baby is going to be the same race and you do love your husband i advise you to take it to the grave with you. he only trouble you would have is the one you cheated with if he does not know then do not let him know it could be his. This advise is if you WANT to save your marriage. The day i told my hubby is the day he lost respect for me and he no longer worshiped the ground on walk on. YOU have to look at why you cheated in the first place...... sounds like it was one of those stupid mistakes but mine was because i was lacking something in my marriage so if you cherish you marriage then you better hush and grow from there.

Answer 8

While it probably will end your marriage, I believe that you should tell your husband. Keeping this secret will make your marriage a lie. Truth usually comes out eventually. Every day you keep this secret, you make the eventual revelation worse. What could you say if, God forbid, your child someday needs an organ, or has a blood test, that shows hubby couldn't be the father? Lies in any marriage harm the marriage.

Answer 9

Your husband has every right to be told.If you don't tell him you will feel guilty (I would think you should anyways) that will eat at you and affect your mood and put another stress on your marriage.He will sense something is wrong.Tell him or you will regret it forever.You messed up and now you really need to fess up.You won't know his reaction till you do.I would have to tell him right away if it were me.Honesty will set you free from a lot of
stress that is not good for you or the baby.

Answer 10

You know, he's going to spend a large part of his life helping you raise this child. He has the right to know the facts. You made a choice. Now you have to live with it. You need to find a marriage counselor and tell him. Find out how soon a paternity test can be done. Treat him like a man and a human being -- not a source of money.