a question about virginity?

Question

me and my boy friend have been dating since 5th grade and we are now in 7th grade and want to have sex but we dont think we are ready. Should we have sex? Are we ready? he is 13 and i am almost 13

i have got me period and i know how to use condoms and birth control

Answer 1

No.
Birth control is not 100% guaranteed, and at 13 you are not mature enough to understand the deep ramifications of sex.

Answer 2

How do you know how to use condoms and birth control?

If you are on birth control, does that mean you are on it?

You two don't seem like you both are ready though. Especially if you have to ask strangers if you should. It is a choice you two only will make and it will affect you two. Not us.

You might know about birth control and condoms. (however, I feel you don't know enough yet. I am almost 21 and still learning about reproductive system of male and female, plus new medical technology etc). I knew the basics at your age and I imagine you only know the basics still.

But I don't think you know enough about pregnancy, std's and life in general.

You been with him for awhlie. However, be realistic hun. It is a very known fact and I am proof of it, High school is the year of changes. You two can be with 3 other people by time you graduate.

Think ahead and "what ifs".

What if you get pregnant? Who will take care of this child? Who will pay for this child? How will you go to school? What about career? What about hanging with friends? Paying the doctor bills? What about complications? What about if he doesn't want you nor the baby, now or later?

So much to think of. Even as adults should be thinking those "what ifs".

Honestly, wait. If he loves you and you love him. You both can't wait until you both are ready and able to take care of the responsibilities. If you two make it, then more proud of the choice. If you two don't make it, at least you didn't make any mistakes to regret once you come a teen/adult.

I was your age and I know exactly how you feel since I asked the same very question as you. You know what, I didn't have sex and him and I broke up a few months later. However, he is my fiance as we got back together last year 6 years later. lol. So, sometimes things happen for reason. If not now, doesn't mean life is over and won't ever happen.

Answer 3

I think 13 is too young. You can still do other things, you know, "fooling around", touching each other if you are comfortable with that without actually having sex ---whether that is intercourse or oral sex.

At 13 I was fooling around with my boyfriend all the time but didn't have sex or oral sex. I didn't have sex until I finished high school and was so glad I waited. Once you are finished with school you have so much less to worry about so you aren't as worried and anxious about getting pregnant or having a bad reputation at school. And fooling around and touching each other in other ways was just as much fun and felt great.

Never have sex if you are not absolutely sure you are ready for it. It won't feel good if you are not ready and that can make you have problems with sex later on in life. Also teenage boys do not really know what to do either so he could hurt you by accident.

Once you do have sex use a condom every single time until you are married and ready to have a baby.

Answer 4

Hun, you are too young to have sex, wait until you are at least 15 or 16 ( I lost my virginity when I was 15, a little young but we both loved each other so it was ok). It's good to hear that you and your boy friend have been together for 2 years, I hope it works out between you two. Listen to your heart, if you two don't think your ready then don't have sex, but even if you think your ready later on, you might not be emotionally ready to have sex, so wait until you are at least 15 or 16 like I said above. Hope that helped. =)

Answer 5

You are only 13 years old. You shouldn't be having sex. Sex is something that is so beautiful and so amazing. Wait until you're married to have sex. I'm not saying that because "it's a sin not to!!", I'm saying it because when you are married, you're with a guy that you already love more than anything in the world, and when that moment comes, where you two are as one, you won't regret it. And you will be happy that you waited. You're 13, enjoy your youth. Don't grow up too fast. Sex will change your life forever, and at 13, it won't be for the best.

Answer 6

no you shouldn't. you may hear this a lot but your to young. if you don't believe that then think about this.if you have started your period already then you have a chance of being pregnant.do you really want to be 13 1/2 and have a child? they are a huge responsibility and you wont have any time for "you time" or time for your friends.you deserve a life of your own, not the life of a mother. not only that but you can get deadly deceases even if you use a condom. be smart and dont have sex until your willing to take those chances. at 13 its not worth the risk!!!!!

Answer 7

I thought in your other question though you weren't ready to have sex whatsoever?? you were just asking about masturbation and how to orgasm?? I would say wait totally... most people say they regret having sex the younger they are!

I lost mine at 16.. which I don't regret the age at all... but sex was never good for me until I actually had it with my fiance now... because we learned how to have sex with eachother... he is the only guy that I have ever orgasmed with.. time, life experiences, and being comfortable are what achieved that! I think at your age you are to young to have the life experiences needed to have loving consentual sex!

Trust me I know this because even though sex was great before I had my child sex is even more great after having a child... because you having nothing to lose... your spouse has seen you at your worst...

but Im not telling you to go have a kid either!!

whatever you do be safe!

Answer 8

If you dont think your ready, then your not ready. Besides 13 is way to young. Just ask yourself if your ready to be a parent. No form of protection is 100% effective, and if your not ready to have a baby then your not ready to practice having a baby.

Answer 9

if you and your boyfriend have been dating since the fifth grade then yo ll can date longer and wait even longer. no you and your boyfriend should wait a little bit longer like about a couple of years. I'm having sex with someone is way more than just pleasure. instead of wanting to have sex how about wanting ti help each other pass in school.

Answer 10

if you dont think ur ready then your not so no! and you dont wanna lose your virginity in 7th grade! you probably wont be with him forever unless your lucky and marry your child hood sweat heart. having your period gives u a chance to get pregnant which should give you even more of a reason not to!