OKAY ME AND MY HUSBAND HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 8 MONTHS AND WHEN WE GOT MARRIED WE PLANNED DO DO THINGS WHEN WE 1ST GOT MARREID.....WE PLANNED OUT THE AMOUNT OF KIDS WE WANT AND THE THINGS WE WANTED OUT OF LIFE......SINCE THAN HE HAS CHANGED EVERYTHING WE WHERE GOING TO DO SAYING HE DIDN'T WANT THAT ANYMORE.....HE THAN LATER CAME WITH A WEAK COMPORMISE....SAYING HE ONLY WANTED ONE CHILD AND THATS THE ONE WE HAVE...AND THAN HE CAME SAYING OKAY......HE WANTS ONE MORE BUT NO TIME SOON....AND HE ALSO SAID HE WANTED TO ADOPT AND NOW HE DOESN'T.....ADOPTING HAS ALWAYS BEEN A DREAM OF MINE AND NOW I CAN'T BECAUSE I'M MARRIED TO HIM AND HE DOESN'T WANT THAT....WE HAVE ALSO MADE TONS OF OTHER PLANS THAT HE HAS CANCELED ON NOW THAT WE ARE MARRIED...I FEEL LIKE MY LIFE AND DREAMS ARE BEING PUT ON HOLD....I ALSO FEEL LIKE HE PLAYED ME BECAUSE HE MADE PLANS WITH ME AND THEN FELL THREW ON THEM....I'M I RIGHT TO FEEL LIKE I WANT TO LEAVE SO I CAN LIVE AND FIND SOME1 WHO WANTS WHAT I WANT?
2006-07-31 08:46:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ALSO MY SON IS NOT HIS SON....AND ARE LIFE IS SO BORING WE DO THE SAME STUFF EVERYDAY....WE HAVE TALKED ABOUT IT AND HE SAID HE WOULD CHANGE AND HASN'T....AND I'VE NEVER BEEN THE TYPE OF PERSON TO BE BORING I'VE ALWAYS BEEN FUN AND ENERGETIC.....AND NOW THAT WE'RE MARRIED HE'S STOPPED HAVEING FUN WITH ME AND I FEEL LIKE A BORING OLD WOMAN AND I'M ONLY 19 AND HE'S 24 WE SHOULD BE HAVING FUN.....I THINK I SHOULD LEAVE HIM....BUT I KNOW IT WILL BREAK HIS HEART....EVERY TIME HE THINKS I'M GONNA LEAVE HE MAKE COMPROMISES THAT HE KNOWS THAT WILL MAKE ME HAPPY AND THAN HE CHANGES THEM LATER....HE SAID I SHOULD JUST REMIND HIM THAT THIS IS WHAT HE' S AGREED TO WHEN HE CHANGES HIS MIND BUT I DON'T THINK I SHOULD HAVE TO REMIND HIM IF IT'S WHAT HE REALLY WANTS
2006-07-31 08:58:33 · update #1
well, the guys very often give you so much promises to be with you. I think your husband wants to take all the decisions by himself and of course you don't feel OK, because he doesn't share your dreams. I'm sorry about your situation. You should think very well about your feelings and if you want to save your relationships or not. If you feel that your marriage is a mistake, it's better to end it without waiting to much. You should find a right person for you, because you live only once and you merit to be happy. Good luck! And take care
2006-07-31 08:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you get married its not all of what you want anymore its about compromise you need to understand your life is not on hold its already happening all your dreams can be a dream and you have to put some things behind you and move on........no one out there has the same quality as you you got to remember that, don't forget what you started just work your way around..............would you rather have a failed marriage or a successful one think about it ................when you get married that's the way it is all plans change......work with it and not against it ............sometimes things happen for a reason and if you put yourself first for everything you will be unhappy, but the more you give to the ones you love the more you receive.....don't wait till happiness falls on your lap you need to make your own happiness work for you .........Good Luck ! I hope you don't choose the wrong direction in life ..................
2006-07-31 16:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by kathy<!-- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like him are flaky. They'll say one thing, turn around and say/do the complete opposite, talk in circles and there is no logic to their plans. They don't have a good direction to life and expect you to just go along with that. I'm telling you, it will not get better. It will get to the point where you cannot believe anything he says and people like that would rather argue than try to fix the problem.
Without having the same goals and seeing them through together, this marriage is in trouble and what you feel now will continue unless changes are made. Sorry, but don't count on these changes, he is who he is and you cannot change another person.
2006-07-31 16:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life happens when you are too busy making plans.
People grow up and change. You should do the same.
Good luck
2006-07-31 15:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK SEE IF YOU CAN COMPERMISE ON SOME OF THE IMPORTANT THINGS IF NOT I DONT BLAME YOU FOR LEAVING I WENT THRU SOMETHING LIKE THAT WHEN I WAS MARRIED AND JUST LIKE I GOT INTO IT I GOT OUT OF IT TO PRESERVE MY SANITY SO IF HE WONT MEET YOU HALFWAY THEN DONT WASTE NO MORE TIME
2006-07-31 15:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by mocha27girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋