I love my wife.
2006-07-31 08:38:01 · 18 answers · asked by falcon_male69 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
And??? You and about 40% of the male population. You are not that different from many men out there, you just don't hear about it. The only decent, but flawed, research done states that about 10% of males are Gay, 40+% are potentially Bi, and about 40+% are strictly straight...what happens to the few left over can be dropped into the Asexual basket as having no desire for either. Just because someone turns you on does not mean you are goingt to act on it....Big deal! Enjoy the visuals, keep it to yourself, and leave it at that. You are happy as it stands, so why are you worried??? I don't understand the issue. Unless you thought you were way out there by yourself. Trust me, you are not in any way, shape or form. At times, I have made a career of married men for a quciky..I feel that I helped them save their marriage..they go home to the wife, free of disease, happy, bed down the wife, and all are better off for the experience. These guys are NOT gay, they are stuck somewhere in the middle, like so many men. Again, big deal. Good luck to you.
2006-07-31 10:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are one h__ of a man to admit this, but there's surely more men out there who would NEVER admit this.
Kudos to you-you got some balls.. but in all reality, maybe it's just the mystery of that world? It's part of the human psyche to find the unknown erotic. It's been proven repeatedly. I wouldn't worry about it unless you talk to guys online or have a stronger interest...then you should really do some research and talk to some gay men. They are very forthright if you find the right one.
2006-07-31 08:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by southrngirl2724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and attraction are not subsets of one another. While hopefully they intersect, you can be attracted to others than the one you love. As long as you respect that love, and don't act on the attraction, no big deal. Remember Jimmy Carter, who confessed to having lusted in his heart?
Now as to why you think of men? Hmmm....I don't know. Maybe it's just a curiosity that never got scratched when you were younger. Maybe there's some bisexuality in your nature. But just as you don't act on the attraction you have for other women, you needn't act on the attraction you may have for a man.
2006-07-31 10:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your experience is unusual. However, if you love your wife, you will do best to try to avoid any gay situations. If you experiment with the gay world, it will suck you in. You will cause your wife great pain, your family will think your nuts, and you'll feel like a jerk.
2006-07-31 12:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend he tough he was, I'm gay and he asked my for advise, I'm going to tell you what i said to him... You decided long ago to have the life that you have right know, you have a nice home, a beautiful wife who cares and loves you and 2 lovely children, in life we have to make sacrifices for the people we love..... don't risk it...... you can jeopardize the future of your family, you can cause them lots of pain,,, think about it first,,,, and if you are willing to step forward just be true to your wife and family..........
2006-07-31 08:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by snorlax72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I know or have been told it's quite normal for straight men to think about men and straight women to think about women. It's just most men fear saying anything because they are afraid of losing their machismo and that their friends will start calling them gay. Now if you act on it then that's different.
2006-07-31 20:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem ok to me
im a gay guy and i respect you alot for saying something like that.
all i can say is keep what you have.
its ok to check other men out but i guess the least you should do is mabye buy some gay magazines (not just porn) and just read about the gay lifestyle. to satisfy your inner desieres.
ok good luck and life and have a awesome day
2006-07-31 09:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by Darmcc15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone, I have the same thoughts, you're OK, maybe bored with your sex life and looking for some forbidden territory - your thoughts are not worth hurting the people you love and who love you. Maybe you're just coming to grips with your sexuality, maybe you're just realizing that you are bisexual but never could admit it before for whatever reason. Relax and don't loose your mind over it - you are who you are, accept it.
2006-07-31 13:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are on a continuum that is just not 100% straight - you can still love you wife!! I am glad you are checking out how you feel.
2006-07-31 09:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Student123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love ur wife then dont leave her and be gay! i think alot of straight guys have gay thoughts sometimes!
2006-07-31 11:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋