Is this right? what do you think he wants her to kiss my nipples and everithing i don't now what to do is there any web pages to find this people?? do they charge please help i am confused?? i don't now why my husband wants this fantasy i am not okay with it but i want him to be happy.
2006-07-31 08:10:52 · 46 answers · asked by SunFlower 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You asked, "is this right?". You're the only one who can answer this question. You said it's not ok with you but you want him to be happy. I think you should talk about it with him more. Tell him why it makes you uncomfortable, and ask him any questions you want to know. The only way things like this work is if there is complete open and honest communication.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and we've done this before, but only after making sure we were both comfortable and into it. If I hadn't have had a good conversation with him before it happened, I think it would have hurt our relationship a lot. However, because of our communication, our relationship only got stronger, with more trust and communication.
Some good websites are www.aff.com (adult friend finder)
www.alt.com
Also you can search Yahoo or Google for adult classifieds or something along those lines.
I hope this helps and I hope you and your husband talk this through and if you decide to do it - Have fun! Enjoy!
2006-07-31 08:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Brooks 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Common fantasy for men. Chances are he has somebody in mind to be the other female, you might even know her. It could either be one of those enlightening experiences where you experience new levels of personal growth, or it could be a disaster. Bottom Line: if you're not comfortable with it or really willing to give it a try, then it might be best not to do this. Some hesitancy is natural. After all, this isn't something you do everyday and it is extremely intimate. But if you're just nervous about it and yet willing, then go ahead and dive in. I've done this once, a long time ago. For me, it was rather like being in a circus...nobody really knew what to do or how to do it. Nowadays, women are a lot more sexually savvy when it comes to intimate pleasuring and they seem to already know just what to do when/if they find themselves in the same situation you're in. Wish I had the same opportunity to do it again...it would be a lot better this time. Good luck.;)
2006-08-01 01:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy, just like any other guy. Your husband has fantasies that we all have. Anyone who says they don't have fantasies is just not being truthful. With that said, most fantasies are just that, fantasies. These fantasies shouldn't be acted out.
Why? Not because you may not like it. You may love it. The reason not to is possible emotional baggage that it may bring. I'm 43 years old and have a wonderful wife. She's the best. We talked about swinging years ago and decided that it was to much of an emotional gamble to fool with. There are places that emotions can go with that sort of thing that neither you or hubby want to go.
Every guy thinks about a threesome with his wife. Your hubby is no weirdo. But if he loves you he will understand that the danger does not warrant the pleasure of the turn on.
Tom
2006-07-31 08:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is be with the female first then with both of them.
Do not deny him, unless you want him to do this with someone who will.
There is a certain degree of compromise you must endure. If you love him and wish to KEEP him you will take heed to his words as this is what he wants and will do it WITH or WITHOUT you I am sure if he thinks this way.
My woman and I do it and we have been together for 6 years, you think we will let sexual relations come between that?
Worry not you will be happy with it soon enough. As long as you pick the ladies and have control over what he gets.
This is the way we work, and we love each other lots. Granted there will be times when everyone wont see eye to eye but communication is key
Always remember that being with 2 guys is diff in his mind.
As a woman you recieve what is given.
With two women he can give..I am sure he wont want you to recieve from two men.
We dont work that way. We want to see you with other women, not other men
so disregard this from people who have never had sexual relations like this as they will only help you to be divorced.
Enjoy other women the two of you can give each other things males cannot.
Adding your husband from time to time is just an added bonus for him.
Or dont do it, to every action there is a consequence.
It takes very mature people to travel this road. People that do not wear their hearts on their sleeves if you will.
When people can stop looking at each other as possesions and subdue their fear of loss only then can they travel this path.
Are you ready for this path to strengthen your bond with him or do you fear you will lose him?
I would not play with this if you are not mature enough to enjoy it and undertsnd what it is you are actually doing. You are not CHEATING but experiencing, WITH your husband
2006-07-31 08:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, is extremely easy to find people for that. The threesome is ranked No 2 in top ten sexual fantasiosis, so I believe your husband is normal -don't worry. One of my sexual fanatsiosis is to have sex with my wife and being watched from another woman -she can even touch and kiss HER. It is best to fulfill this fantasy with a person you know, not with a stranger or whores, call girls, etc
2006-07-31 08:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by olaola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do YOU want?
There are plenty of places on the web to find all kinds of kinks and such, but is this something YOU want to pursue. I don't think you should be doing something that sounds to me like you don't want to do, just because it's his idea of a good time.
The two of you have a lot of talking to do before you go about mixing other people into your situation.
2006-07-31 08:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in to someone Else's fantasies if you are not okay with it. In the end it will cause more trouble than it's worth. If he loves you he would not ask you to do something that makes you uneasy. sit down and talk to your husband, tell him how you feel. If he still expects you to do it seriously rethink your relationship.
2006-07-31 08:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by sugermagnolia26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only really ok if you're all friends. NOT A GOOD IDEA to force the issue. It's a fantasy. That's all. If it ever comes up naturally, thats ok but not with a stranger. You could get a disease.
2006-07-31 08:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is preverted. I dare say if you said no and told him that you would rather have another man in the picture say- your husband caressing your boobs while the guy had sexual relations with you that he would object in a heart beat.
Ask him what is so wrong about you that you are not enough for him?
2006-07-31 08:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"i don't now why my husband wants this fantasy i am not okay with it but i want him to be happy."
thats pathetic. put your foot down. i cant believe people are so..
well let me just say that it sounds like you have a winner right there -_-. watch him cheat on you next, and you wont do anything because you "want him to be happy"
2006-07-31 08:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by NAQ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋