We have been together for 7 years and when he wants sex, he says stuff like I bet you want a penile injection right. WOW what a turn on, he wouldn't know romance if it saty on his face and wiggled. I love him to peices, but I dont want to hurt his feelings. What can I do
2006-07-31 07:58:33 · 27 answers · asked by foodlawyer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND NEED TO SIT DOWN AND TALK THING OVER . YOU CAN'T APPROACH HIM IN A REALLY RUDE WAY, BUT MAYBE GO TO HIM AND SAY, BABY CAN WE TALK . THEN WHEN YOU START TALKING TELL WHAT THE TOPIC IS AND JUST PUT IT IN A SWEET GENTLE WAY. LIKE MAYBE SAY WHEN WE ARE HAVING SEX WOULD YOU LIKE TO TRY SOME DIFFERENT MOVES. YOU MIGHT EVEN ASK IF HE WANT TO BE EXPERIMENTAL. IF THAT DOESN'T HELP , YOU MIGHT SHOULD TRY MAKING THE FIRST MOVE AND JUST SHOW HIM HOW IT DONE AND MAYBE HE WILL TAKE THE LEAD.
2006-07-31 08:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by guestcook06 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well 7 years you have a definite history there.Possibly should have been brought up long ago,but the past is the past.I would be honest and tell him its actually more of a turn off than a turn on.Tell him there are 100 other things he could say or do that would make you want him 100 times more,plus it will be well communicated on both sides before ever even getting near the bed.
2006-07-31 15:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Chivalry says, "First, tell him that you do love him, then be honest with him. Let him know that you mean no harm, but you are letting him know how you feel. He wouldn't be much of a man if he didn't want to make his wife happy, right? Let him know how you feel, but gently. For example, the penile injection statement he made. Let him know you do want him, but there will be a bigger turn on for you if he used phrases like 'make love' or 'intimacy'. I can't tell you how to ask for it, but it's up to you and him to change things if you two want them to be better. If you want better romance, speak up!"
2006-07-31 16:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries...Men are sored of like puppets...Just remember women have the most power, when coming to sex!!! It is very normal for couples to tell each other there likes and dislikes of their kind of romance!!! Just tell him how you feel and I am 100% sure he will not get offended...say what's on your mind, that's the whole point for an opinion...Now, don't be rude or mean with what your trying to tell your man...simply tell him how you feel and make sure you keep eye contact so that he understands where you are coming from!!! contact me at n e time...
2006-07-31 15:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by jasmine m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should initiate the sex before he has teh opportunity. Not all the time, but for the next week or two, beat him to the punch with some crazy sexy stuff, then afterwords, talk aboutit in a tactful way. He wont be offended if you catch him in post-coital relaxation.
2006-07-31 15:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine does the same thing...."hey! wanna' f**k?"...sometimes (okay most of the time) it does aggrevate me, and really turns me off...even if i was in the mood. Sometimes, I try to turn what he says around and make it "playful." I will say something like "oh yeah, i'm wet now...that really did it for me.....oh wait...oh...ah...nevermind, I'm finished. Sorry, better luck next time. You are just so good at this foreplay stuff." Then he will realize why I'm saying it, and gets the hint. When he says something like that, try not to let it get you "down." Instead, look at him and tell him flat out (in a sexy way)..."No, baby...I want you to _____ ______ ______".....if he can't catch that, knock him upside the head with a rolling pin. Sometimes, I look at my husband and just tell him if he wants it he has to learn how to ask for it properly :) The biggest thing is to not let his insensitivity hurt your feelings. Then he will get all stupid and confused...then that turns to mad....so on and so forth...take what little he gives you and run with it...
2006-07-31 15:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been with the man for seven years and can't say what you want without feeling like it's going to hurt his feelings, then you two need to talk more. It's more important to be able to be honest with each other on most everything than worry about stepping on toes. Try saying what you want to hear on him and see if he picks up the next time by saying it to you.
2006-07-31 15:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you want SPECIFICALLY. Woman hope that men get subtlety-WE DON'T If he acts badly don't reward him. When he acts properly he gets nookie. If he acts the *** treat him as such. If he does and acts as you ask reward him. We men are dogs and need to be treated along the same lines.
Men need:
approval from their wives
sex
and assurances that we are OK.
If you give him these things when he acts properly he will figure it out soon enough.
All Best
Brother Duane
2006-07-31 15:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by Duane Allman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand if it was all out of fun. However you need to let him know that you are a lady and deserve to be treated and respected like one. Let him know that your giving yourself to him in a special way and it turns you off when he talks like that. Don't over sensitize the issue just be frank.
2006-07-31 15:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him what would get you in the mood. After 7 years you'd think he'd have a clue, but it's possible he doesn't and thinks his approach is fine. Be gentle though.
2006-07-31 15:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋