why do guys not know what the word no is.
i say no to every guy that ask me out but they keep tring they dont back down they come in to my coffee shop and they just dont want to leave i dont blow them off i will talk to them but i tell them that i am take a sabbatical from men for a while and they laugh at me like i'm jokeing
2006-07-31 07:56:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dark Angel,
Contrary to popular misconception...men are truly sensitive beings. We have strong outer shell, some of it hidden by some well fed guts...but strong nevertheless.
Yet inside, we are scarred to death!!!
For some reason we walk around with this sense that we are responsible for EVERYTHING and feel as though it is impossible to ever live up to the expectation thrown upon us.
We seek outlets, many of us through dysfunctional relationships. We are controlling, because we fear losing control...relationships are simply a distraction from real life. As such we seek relationships with woman whom we can't have one with.
Saddly we base our desire on on physical act. SEX and we respond and act on that desire. Men taming their natural healthy sexual desire is like taming a wild lion, or riding a bull in the rodeo with his nuts tied tight.
However at some point, we do get beyond this and learn to listen and learn about a woman. Who she is, what she likes, what makes her click? What are her dreams as well as her fears?
If you are willing to talk to these guys who don't take no for an answer, then keep you no NO!!!, but engage them with questions.
First, guys love to talk about themselves...however you will find a true Man, when he turns your question back to you and actually listens to who you are. That is when you know that you may have found a man worth taking a break from your sabatical.
Best wishes to you...in time you will find a man truly worthy of you, all of you as you are willing to give...piece by piece.
2006-07-31 08:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by warequalspeace 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I believe the answer to your question lies in the people with the nerve to ask you out. If they are half-jokingly asking then they truly arent interested, just making conversation. If they are indeed serious then they will approach you when the timing is right. I think maybe youre taking it more serious than it merits...sounds like light joking with restaurant patrons. No means no...i understand you not wanting to offend a patron however any reasonable person man or woman should respect the answer given...or if they dont they shouldnt have asked in the first place.
2006-07-31 08:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Why not tell them anything about your reasoning and tell them when the right guy comes along he'll have everything you've been looking for in a man already in his possession...and then IF they ask what that is....tell them if they have to ask...they aren't him.
Guys can't stand a mental chase especially if there is no hint of sexual undertone. Believe me, they'll just sigh or "humph" under their breath and ask for a refill on their coffee. No one is insulted or feelings hurt and you won't feel bad facing them the next day.....
2006-07-31 09:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by HotSpicy_Creole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me once with one particular guy. He would come into my job and always ask me out. I'd say no every time and he'd keep asking. It got so bad that I would have to hide in the back when he came in and other employees would tell him I wasn't there.
The funniest part though, he came in one day bragging that because I wouldn't go out with him he married someone else. Like I cared, I was just glad to be rid of him. Oh, and poor girl, I feel really sorry for her. If she knew why he married her she would feel so bad.
2006-07-31 08:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them that you are in a serious relationship. As long as you have a serious relationship with someone, it isn't lying. It wouldn't have to be a serious sexual relationship.
Another option is lying, but would probably work. Just say that your Dr. told you that you need to stay out of relationships until your herpes clears up. :-)
Good luck.
2006-07-31 08:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by 1hotmama5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your a real piece of work. First of all I know alot of women that would love to be in your shoes. I know it is annoying to have these guys hound you. Come on now! Your opening your self up for them to talk to you. Old saying goes, "don't take kindness for weakness". STOP TALKING TO THEM!!!
2006-07-31 08:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that things have caused you to feel that way. I'll give you space.
Call me when you are ready
2006-07-31 08:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you don't beat around the bush tell them not to bother you your not interested your parents should be proud
2006-07-31 08:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are too attractive.. :)
2006-07-31 08:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by prawn_headed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋