I have this nieghbor who is trying to quit smoking but when her husband is at work she tells her 6 year old son to come over and get 2 cigarettes for her 2 to 3 times a day. I don't want to be mean and tell her no but i am getting sick and tired of it. My husband is the one that pays for my cigarettes not me and he is geting agravated
2006-07-31 07:40:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her that you can't afford to keep supplying her with smokes and that you don't feel right giving them to her 6 year old son. That's disgraceful!!! Tell her to buy her own and hide them as her secret habit from her husband should have nothing to do with you. You gotta tell her the way it is, even if it means that she'll be mad at you. Alternatively, to avoid conflict, you can lie to her and say you quit.
2006-07-31 07:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you this, but she your becoming her enabler. Shame on her for putting her son in the middle of it. I think you should explain to her, Its not your responsibility to supply her with cigarettes. Next time he comes over, send him back home with a note. Tell her you need to talk to her on the phone or in person. Then explain to her, it is causing problems between you and your husband, and you can no longer help her out. She needs to grow up and stop keeping secrets from her husband. Suggest she can buy some and keep them with you. Then she can come and get her Own cigarettes.
2006-07-31 07:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by skynickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he comes over, tell the little boy you don't have any. It would be way easier for me to tell the little kid rather than an adult. Just tell her no or it would be a good time for you to quit too!! Then with the extra money your husband saves in a year you to could go on vacation together and get away from your neighbors for a few days!!!
2006-07-31 07:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cigarettes is a drug and when you become an addict of it it is not always possible to abandon. I have been a smoker for long and I tried by my own to abandon but it was not easy. But let me tell you that there is someone who can set you free from cigarettes. He will make you hate cigarettes as he did to me. He will also set you free from other things like lies telling. This person is the Lord Jesus Christ. Would you accept His solution?He is knocking at the door of your heart.
2006-07-31 07:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by patrick w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would go talk to her and just tell her that this is the last cigarette that I will be giving you. Just say put it on your husband. Tell her that he found out what you were doing and he got all upset because he is the one who buys them for you and he feels like your giving his hard earned money away. So to stop the agreements in your house you need to not be in the middle of her problems. Sorry....then walk away.
2006-07-31 08:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which is bing meaner?
Enabling and giving cigarettes to a 6 year old child to carry back to her addicted mother and thus further showing the bad examples that things in life can be manipulated to meet your own inner desires...right or wrong.
or...
simply saying no.
Is saying no, mean to you or the neighbor...is the neighbor not being mean by putting you in this position in the first place?
Have your boundaries not been violated?
What are you willing to stand up for?
2006-07-31 07:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by warequalspeace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you quit with her? It really sucks she is sending a child over for cigarettes. What message is she sending to her son? Next time he comes over, I would say I do not have any and give him a popsicle instead (if you know him well enough). Do this until she quits asking.
2006-07-31 07:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her to be honest 2 herself first if she want 2 stop smoking.
If she is doing that alot than tell her what does she want?? TO smoke Or not 2 smoke???
If she don't want 2 smoke and she keep asking you for some ask her who is she hiding from coz she is sure not fooling no one.
2006-07-31 07:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply say no. Tell her you are doing it for her own good in order to help her stop smoking. If she doesn't like that then tell her its not fair that she lies to her husband and gets her son to do her dirty work. This is not your responsability or problem its hers.
2006-07-31 07:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Charge her 5 bucks per cigarette and tell her nothing is for free. You suport your habit and she needs to support hers. She'll find out it's cheaper to quit or go buy her own that to buy them from you. And tell her to quit sending her kid over, you're not giving tobacco products to a minor.
2006-07-31 08:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋