Age gap of approx 7 years - too much??

Question

I am quite young at the moment, but I like an older guy. I have been strongly advised against this by my parents as they think we will not have similar interests. Is this true? Am I being stupid?

As to request I'll say my age. I'm 15 yrs old, BUT I am not thinking of acting on this untill I am mature i.e 18.

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One of the things that attracted me to him was the fact that he is always ready for a laugh and seems to be at the similar maturity. Saying I'm 15 sounds pretty bad, but I come from an asian culture where sex before marriage is expressively forbidden etc...so I'm not thinking of anything yet!

I know I should still be more mature but I have an elder brother of a similar age to the guy I like, and so I am used to relating to people of that age group.

I'm getting more and more confused - please help!!!

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1. I look and feel very mature for my age. Most people ask what I have got in my A levels! He would have pictured me for much older.
2. He has made no advance of any kind.
3. We are of the same culture and backgound. I see him in the temple!!!
4. Sex is NOT and never will be an issue. I will never be that idiotic.
5. He is a known person to the family. My parents have no idea of my attraction. The question I have asked my mother have been very vague and speculative.

He is NOT a sexual predator. He probably no idea that I like him. He is very pious and important part of the temple community. He is respected and admired by everyone.

I would never look twice at someone who even had the slightest undertone of being some sort of predator looking for the easiest way to get laid!!

my parents have an arranged marriage, where the age gap is 8 years. They are not really happy, and so I can see where my mum is coming from.

Answer 1

Both over 25? Then seven years is not a very big deal. If you're under 25, you have many differences in life experience, education and income. He'll be more of an authority figure to you than a life partner.

Answer 2

You didn't say how old you were......13 and 20, oh yes, way toooooo young, in fact 16 and 18 or even 20 and 27. When one is an adult, possessed of an education, then age doesn't mean much..... 30, 38: 55,65, At these ages, it ain't never the years, and it doesn't even make any difference if it is the lady who is older.... in fact, it helps, since older guys tend to loose their edge. If you were 55 or 60, I'd be telling you to pick a younger guy..... But, an as a teenager, you or he don't have enough mileage to even know. So, yup, listen to your parents...your hormones are out of control, and you are impressed that an older guy might like you. Sooooorrrrrrry..... At this point, honey, your parents really do know what is best for you....

Answer 3

I was once young and in love with a guy that was 6 years older than me, when I was 14. My parents also said the same thing and actually forbid the relationship. I was crushed and said I was going to hate them forever. Back then it was hard for me to understand my parents thinking, but now that I am a mother and a bit older I understand where they were coming from. They just want what is best for you. Being that you are quite young...you need to find someone in your own age group. There is a big difference unless you're 18 + when there are that many years in between you. Good Luck : )

Answer 4

depends how old you are if you are 14 and he is 21, its no good. But if you are say 20 and he is 27 that is fine. You are better waiting to over 18 if you want a boyfriend 7 years older, as your mum is right, your interests are completly different. You should be out skiping, and he might want to go the pub. So no, you wait, like mum said.

Answer 5

If you're over 18 then 7 years is just a number. Godspeed, and good luck

But if you're younger than 18 - Like we're talking R. Kelly's type - then it's a different set of numbers: like 5 to 15 in prison for him.

Answer 6

Getting involved with a guy that age is bad news. You are young and why would you want to wait until 18 to act on it. You have so many differnt people you are going to meet. When guys are that old and they look at little girls. They are only looking at one thing! and that is that you are young and fit and probally very cute. Guys that like girls your age are sick! And he might even be a sexual preditor! So if I were you I would stay far away from him and forget you ever met him before he does something you might not like!

Answer 7

You didn't tell us your age, but if you are "quite young" my guess would be yes...more than a couple of years difference when you are a teen, is probably too much (7 definitely would be). You simply aren't going to be on the same page in life...it's likely you won't have a lot of common interests, you'll be in different places in your education, and he'll likely have had life experiences you haven't yet.

Chances are, he'd lose interest fairly quickly...even if he seems to really dig you now.

Answer 8

My wife & I are 8 years apart. When we were younger, things were Ok. Now that I'm 44, I'm looking much older and she still looks like she's in her twentys. On a recent trip to NYC the lady on the plane thought I was traveling with my two sons and daughter. I have no daughter.

Answer 9

Don't know what your exact ages are, but I don't think 7 years apart is enough to say you don't deserve to be together. You both may want different things out of life at different times, so you'll just need to be sensitive to each other's hopes and dreams. Good luck!

Answer 10

i don't think you are being stupid just looking for a little attention.an age gap of 7 years is not to much depending on how old you are.if you are over 18 then it is ok. older men usually really want one thing from someone who is under 18. just becareful.