My husband thinks its not a big deal but yet he wasnt going to tell me until after he went.
2006-07-31 06:30:46 · 52 answers · asked by Xtasy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO WAY! I do not stand for this, if a man is truly committed in a relationship than there should be no need for him to go to a place like that. A lot of men do feel that it's okay and "whats the big deal?" but in my eyes it is just wrong and not tolerated. To have your man watching another woman in a sexual manner in my mind that is cheating and not tolerated. Some may say that there was no touching involved, still not accepted. And some wives who already may have a low self-esteem how do you think this would make her feel then?
2006-07-31 07:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Its ok for a married man to go to a strip club if the following conditions are met 1) you can reasonably afford it 2) you are not going more than 2 times a year. If you think sex is going on at the strip club, you are wrong 98% of the time. If you do not trust your husband at a strip club, why even let him go out to a regular bar? The chances of him meeting a stranger and either cheating or developing feelings wtih a woman at a regular bar are 1000% higher than something actually happening at a strip club. If you are insecure that the strippers are better looking than you, that isn't even the issue.... No matter how hot you are...and no matter how much your husband loves you....he is bored of seeing you naked for the 5000th time.... The strippers could be complete dogs, but they are just something different to look at... then he will ultimately come home to you..
2006-07-31 06:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the wife knows beforehand and has no beef about it...sure why not?
However, I would sh-it myself and make my husband eat it before he ever thought about going to a strip club. Rachel's Kitty Lounge is open 24/7. I work hard for my body and he better enjoy it while it lasts and give ME that money.
By the way, I rather eat toe fungus than have my husband come home from a strip club and have ME "reap the benefits" of him getting a hard-on while some unsophisicated desperate, uneducated bimbo danced like a fool.
ALRIGHT...I will go see a naked guy and have his jiggle his wang in my face and then I will come home all turned on and my husband can enjoy my excitement. I don't think he would like that. Don't get married if you are going to be an idiot.
2006-07-31 06:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Rachelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me a male I don't think so I have a wife. She sure give me so much love in bed and everything no matter how thin or fat she is she is the person I married to make love to her. I don't see why waste my money going to strip club just look at them and get lap dance?? I rather have money and spend on my wife and show her how special she is and How much I do love her.
that what marriage is alll about. and He didn't see that and didn't think a big deal?? why did he get married first place and if you not good enough for him?? wow.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-31 08:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he only goes once or twice a year I could live with that, but then it could lead to more often and more lies... But NO seriously if he wants to hang out in places like that he should take you with him and when and if he ask you - go! Is he going alone or with friends either way he should be more mature then this and rent a porn and stay home with his wife.... I wouldn't like it or put up with it if it is happening often! Besides those places are costly! Tell him you'll dance for him for free!!! Buy a few different colored wigs a couple of outfits and shock him! Tell him you can be anyone he wants you to be, better yet tell him you are thinking of a career change and would like to be a dancer at a strip club watch his reaction!!! LOL Then you will have made your point...
Good luck, don't harp or nagg or tell him you don't like it or that he can't go, that will only make him want to do it more...
2006-07-31 06:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok for a married man to go to a strip club.
He's only looking and he's coming home to you, not to the stripper.
Also, if he thinks it's not a BIG deal, ask him how he would feel if you went to a male strip club.
btw: My wife and I both attend strip clubs together. I buy her lap dances and vice versa.
2006-07-31 06:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by stm248 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer depends upon the couple and their relationship. In general strip clubs are not a terrible place and most men that go to them are not there trying to get sex. The fact that your husband wasn't going to tell you until after the fact tells me that he knows that it is not something you approve of and that he felt wrong for going. If a man can't tell his wife straight up that he is going to a strip club then he has no business being there.
2006-07-31 06:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with many here that it should be a decision for the both of you.
In my case I would not want my husband to go to a strip club. I find it disrespectful, and if he isn't looking why doesn't he just go to a regular bar? Also, eventhough I am not the perfect Christian, I have to think of the morals of this situation. I feel that a man or woman looking at someone other than their spouse in a sexual way is a form of adultry. I wouldn't divorce him over this, but I would certainly feel hurt and disrespected.
2006-07-31 06:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by wishing_i_could_sing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. A strip club is the safest place inthe world for a married man. The dancers are a lot less likely to take your man home than the hootchies at the regular bar down the street, who showed up looking to do exactly that. You dont go to the strip club to get sex, only the naive think that way.
My wife goes to the strip club with me. She isnt Bi and we arent swingers. We are a normal everyday couple who can have fun in a place like that together.
Besides, he is going to go if he wants to, like it or not. Dont make him lie to you about it.
2006-07-31 06:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it can be good for a marriage. I know I'd be mad if my husband went to a strip club. I have known a couple of strippers and some of the stuff they tell me that goes on after hours etc.. is not something I'd want my husband involved in!
2006-07-31 06:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a black & white question.
1. A married man who goes to a strip club on a rare occassion: No problem so long as he looks only and no lap dances AND so long as his marriage and sex life are satisfying to his partner.
2. A married man who goes to a strip club frequently: Problem.
3. A married man who goes to a strip club when his marriage and or sex life are not satisfactory: Problem.
4. A married man who goes to a strip club without telling his wife ahead of time: Problem.
2006-07-31 06:35:21 · answer #11 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋