Which is easier for you: apologizing or forgiving?

Answer 1

I think it is easier to apologize.... Forgiving you have to build that trust back because when someone lies to me... there trust is lost

Answer 2

Apologizing

Answer 3

Apologizing, definitely! It's always possible to apologize, unless of course you aren't sorry. When apologizing, all you have to do is admit you did something wrong (this knocks out the one possible difficulty, saying you're sorry when you're not, because the premise to apologizing is that you are sorry). Sooner or later, if you did something stupid, you're going to be able to apologize. Another premise of the apology is that you care about the person you offended or your own appearance, and neither of those things is difficult or rare. Forgiving... I don't believe it's always possible. Some offenses are just too great; I've never encountered any of them, but I can only imagine. My two major guideposts for gauging the difficulty of forgiveness aren't very major compared to a lot of things. My parents acted like fools and ruined my home life, and although I understand why they acted the way they did, I can't really say I forgive them, because to me, forgiveness is saying 100 percent, "It's cool. No problem. It's over, I don't hold it against you." It's saying "I'm fine with this," and really, I could never be fine with that. It's absurd. The other thing is a college professor who secretly arranged a meeting so a bunch of people could attack me for my actions on a personal subject I had already told him I did not want to discuss. I had to sit around a table with some of my peers, some of my superiors, all people whose opinions of me mattered to my business reputation, my effectiveness at doing my job, and while they listened to this man, this professor, chew me up for something that appeared wrong, but--because of the personal information I told him in advance I could not provide--was actually right, actually good, above and beyond. So these people ask me questions, not knowing the only answer I could give them was too personal to give in a professional setting, and I just sit there for about two hours, never saying anything. The whole thing was utterly pointless; I hadn't broken any rule. It was the professor's way of trying to get information out of me; the only way he could do it was make it look like I was getting in trouble for something I didn't do wrong, then have a bunch of people get up in my face and try to pry the information out of me, despite that I had already told him it was personal and a very sensitive issue. It was like being verbally gang-raped, a very humiliating, impotent situation for me. I cannot forgive him.

Answer 4

Forgiving is easier for me personally. It is hard to own up to a mistake I might have made or said the wrong thing because sometime's it's as though there is no stop sign from my brain to my mouth!

Answer 5

Oh...that's a tough one...probably apologizing...I have a tough time forgiving, if the transgression was serious enough for me to be really angry or upset about. There are many things people have done (to me or that affected me) that I have not forgiven, and don't feel the need or desire to do so.

Answer 6

Probably forgiving. It is really hard for me to admit I am wrong, so saying sorry is like I am submitting to that person. Crazy, huh? I can forgive people for certain things, but I will not forget and I will probably bring it up in a future argument.

Answer 7

neither. I don't go around doing or saying things I should apologize for. I also don't believe in forgiveness.

Answer 8

Forgiving definitely!

Answer 9

apologizing, because if I do it I recognize I did a mistake. Forgiving is difficult because sometimes it hurts too much inside.

Answer 10

neither.....im not jesus so i dont have it in my heart to forgive so easily..when i know its easier to just forget and forgive..but i cant ..depends on the situation

and i hate apologizing.....i hate to give the other person an upper hand........i dont care if im as wrong as two left feet....u will never get me to admit it....