MY HUSBAND CHEATED WE ARE TRYING TO MOVE ON.IM STILL HURTING AND REALLY WANT HIM TO HURT.HOW DO I GET THIS MARRIAGE BACK TOGETHER.I FORGIVE HIM.HOW DO I GET IT BACK RIGHT.I WANT HIM TO THINK ITS NOT BOTHERING ME ANYMORE.WHAT TO DO ANY IDEAS
2006-07-31 06:12:41 · 8 answers · asked by greyeyebeauty81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a hard thing to get over. You both need marriage counseling and if he thinks you should just get over it then you need to get a divorce. Once a cheater always a cheater. If you want him to hurt him then you need to just forget it and get a divorce. Marriage is hard enough without trying to get even all the time.
G.G.
2006-07-31 06:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think I'm in the same place ur husband is.. the only difference being my girlfriend dumped me, and doesn't want me back.. Only because she'll never forget what i've done.. So, you should ask yourself the same question.. "will you forget what he's done ?? Will you ever trust him again ??"
I think I can imagine how you're feeling about this.. So, I'm really sorry your in such a mess...
It's no point trying to show one thing, while havin another in the back of ur mind.. If the marriage is what you want, you should forgive him.. but let him know you won't forgive him the 2nd time.. & such mistakes can't happen twice.. At least if he loves you truly..
Do you forgive him or do you want him to hurt ?? U say u want both.. But we all know you can't want him to hurt & want to forgive him as well, at the same time..
You should find out why he cheated on you.. Was he doing it cuz he doesn't want to be with you, or cuz he was fed up with your way of life, or what exactly led him to do what he did. you should know what exactly was on his mind when he did what he did.. Then you should work accordingly..
It's hard to help with so little information provided.. But, did the best I could..
All the best... Hope you find happiness soon,,,
2006-07-31 06:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that is going to help you.. Do a lot of praying.. For Gods will. If it's Gods will it wil be fine. But, if it isn't. It won't work out. Pray Gods Will and strength to help you deal with it. He will help you. I have been there, Just remember. What your will. May not be Gods will. I never got over mine. Until Divorce. And it took years then... Now I'm with someone that loves me as much as i love him. Ps Was with the first one over 13 yrs. This man over 12 years.. And he treats me better in one year. Then the other 1 did in all years i was with him.. In relation ships. When you think about yours. And more hurt and sad feelings comes to mind, Then good.. It's time to leave.. Don't waste years like i did. I don't remember much good time at all. If they know your crazy about them. Like i was.. They will do what they want. They know you will take them back. And, I bet you cry alot. and go to bed with the hurt, And wake up with the hurt.. God bless you. And be with you. Ask for Gods strenght. He will help you.
2006-07-31 06:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by Daris G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust takes time to get back it has to be earned.. being cheated on is one of the most hurtful betrayls.. it makes u feel inadequate and unwanted... he needs to make u feel like ur the only one out there that could catch his eye and hold his heart and assure he wll never stray again. he's got his work cut out for him its not gonna b a overnight thing..and i give u credit ur a strong women to be able to forgive that.. i dont think i could.let him know it still bothers u to some point u can forgive but u will never forget and he needs to know how bad he hurt u it is a big deal. would he of been so forgiving and accepting... time heals all wounds...time
2006-07-31 06:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forget, relive and regret... girl, think twice before you take a cheating man back.. 9 out of 10 cases, a man will do it again
2006-07-31 06:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Karen Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen its easy for ppl to sit and trll u to move on and dont take your husband back. You need to realise that this is your husband not a boyfriend or some fling. I know its hard for you to trust him again.Bt baby girl .thats life. Pray to God about the situation. Speak to him and things will work out. Dont leave him
2006-07-31 06:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by viddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk with a marriage counselor maybe that will help. And you don't want him to think that it's not bothering you that will be a lie when it really is you should tell him how hurt you really are.
2006-07-31 06:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband cheated. 4 yrs ago i still havent got past it trust is the thing . i forgave him but i cant forgive him. talk to him
2006-07-31 06:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by robin w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋