Why are my straight friends so uneasy about hanging out with me if I'm hanging out my gay friends?
2006-07-31 06:11:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm gay and have a straight friend from Virginia. DON'T I
2006-07-31 06:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its great that you have a wide variety of friends which includes some gay friends. It is too bad that your straight friends can't appreciate diversity as well as you do.
I think maybe they are fearful that others will treat them as though they are gay, if they hang with you and your gay friends. You know that gay people are not always treated well.
I guess you could try to convince them that if they'd be the first group at school or around your town to make a point of seeing past a persons sexuality and treating everyone the same, that your school and town would be a better place for everyone!
But good luck with that. The kind of acceptance you have for all people is something you've learned over a period of your entire life. You won't change many of your friends overnight.
2006-07-31 08:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, maybe they think the sterotypes are true and they are going to try and jump the straight people and turn them gay. Or that they will only talk about "gay" issues and don't know that there is so much more to your other friends then just being gay, lesbian, or bisexual. Try to educate them. Or get together with everybody without telling them who is gay and who's not, the guessing game only works on the flames. Could be funny, could end badly, choices, choices.
2006-07-31 06:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people's friends don't all mix together. Sets of friends have their own way of talking to each other, that you might not even notice when you're not around them, they have their own inside jokes, they know certain people and can tell certain stories without a lot of explanation. It could just be that they don't know your gay friends very well and don't enjoy being with them as much as they do with each other. Fact is, most people prefer being around people who are most like themselves.
2006-07-31 18:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by Will 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are not comfortable wiht thier own sexuallity. Most people that have a problem with it are not 100% straight, and being around gay people reminds them of that fact and that threatens them.
2006-07-31 06:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe homosexuality makes them uncomfortable. It's all about respect. Respect your straight friends and your gay friends alike. You don't have to agree but respect is the key.
2006-07-31 06:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't want to think about what your friends do behind closed doors. My friends or okay with my girl friend and I but once I got a comment that was
'I just don't like think about you two making out!'
that makes people uncomfortable
2006-07-31 06:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to tell you what a friend of mine told me. Don't try to get all your friends together, give each and every one of them their own space and time....................... she is straight, and talking about my other straight friends..........so after i separated my different groups of friends, and has worked great,,,,,, nobody is uncomfortable..................coworkers, straight guys, straight girls, gay friends and lesbian friends, love them all..........
2006-07-31 06:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by snorlax72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they simply arent comfortable enough with their own sexuality to be in mixed company, and that is really sad.
2006-07-31 07:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by Tragic Remedy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them, they are supposed to be your friends - you shoulbe able to talk about stuff like that!
2006-07-31 06:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋