Married Ladies, How do you keep your marriage going strong?

Question

How do you avoid temptation while keeping it hot at home when the newly-wed phase wears out?

Answer 1

Hmm, tough question you have here..
How should I answer.....

Honestly, its hard to resist temptation, I almost gave in myself but I constantly remind myself that secrets will always leak out no matter how hard we try to conceal it. So in conclusion, I think about the consequences before I allow myself to accept the temptation. Works quite well so far since I don't have any grudge against my hubby yet..

Apart from temptation, a lot of homework is crucial to keeping the marriage going.

- The old sayings about communication is actually very very true. Before marriage, my husband talked all the time, and I'm always the listener. After the honeymoon, problems start to pop out when he refused to stop talking. It took me a few emotional outbursts to finally succeed in "training" him to become a good listener.(Its also important that he is willing enough to change)

- My society is pretty conservative, so I play according to the rules. (I know some of you ladies think I'm lame, but it works, so I dont really mind) When I'm out in public with him, I play the role of a submissive wife. But back home...hee hee... I'm dominant..The man must has his pride in public to keep himself happy, so why deny him of it? He's happy, I'm happy too.

- Never leave an argument unsettled before you go to bed. No way you can sleep it away...it will grow and become harder to resolve. I know this is hard, but pls try...

- Frankly speaking, soulmates are not good bedmates... But older couples who somehow succeed in their marriages become soulmates. It's like wine, the older it is the better it gets. In my opinion, its not really necessary to keep the heat on all the time. There's this thing from Mother Nature called "Getting Old"...We sort of got used to each other's every little action.

Hope my answer doesn't bore you out..

Answer 2

We were together a while before we had kids so our bond goes deep. Our kids are five and three, my husband has been working out of town mon-fri for the past two and a half years, plus I work weekends because I love to work, and I don't want my kids to go to daycare. We don't have any family nearby so we haven't had time alone since before our first was born. Since we are best friends, and no one could possibly love our kids as much as we do individually we are on the same level when it comes to rearing them. At first it was stressful but now that the kids are older things have become easier. We appreciate the time we have together as a family so we make the best of it. As for sex, well he's only home two days of the week so we squeeze it in every chance we get. It sure was difficult when we had a baby, or two, though.

Answer 3

I've been married for 6 years and we have a VERY strong marriage and still keep things pretty hot in the bedroom.........

But we also have our distance - we work opposite shifts so don't see each other alot..... (And I have a few "friends" he doesn't know about that get me all excited all day long - then when I come home he gets the benefits from all their hard work - sorry boys)

Answer 4

Hubby and I have been together for over 4 years now. We are completely open with eachother, free to be ourselves. I have no desire to go anywhere outside of the marriage (which wasn't always the case with other men) my hubby keeps me totally satisfied. I am lucky to have him, he is a great father, husband, lover, and friend.

Some tricks we use:

My hubby calls me up from time to time and asks me out on a date (just like we were in highschool or something) ~ I in turn call him out of the blue just to tell him i love him and thnak him for all he done for me and the kids. (making sure that the people you love know that they are appreciated is important!)

We "make-out" and sneak around, only this time we are hiding from our kids, not our parents, LOL, don't you remeber that excitement? It's fun.

My hubby will help me out around the house. My hubby is so sexy when he is doing something for me that he knows will help me out. And guess what, if i don't have to fold the laundry, for example, on top of the one hundred other things i have to do than i am less tired and more willing and lively in bed.

The little things, and little touches, keep up waiting to be together all day. We still give eachother those suggestive glances, little touches when we pass in the hallway, or just grab one another for a passionate kiss. It's not all for the bedroom!!!!!

Good luck, and hope this helps!

Answer 5

Keep going on dates, like when you were first dating. Don't be afraid to try new things in the bedroom, variety is the spice of life. Kiss and hug often, affection is very important as time wears on. Be friends, have movie nights in at home, where sex isn't a goal, but quality time spent together is. Have fun, laugh hard, love harder, and keep your trust in eachother at all times.

Answer 6

I make sure that I hold his attention. I make our home a happy and lively place. I have a career of my own, so when he gets home I have interesting things to say. We make dinner, drink wine and chat for hours over the dinner table. Sometimes we get home and one of us says 'shall we go out for dinner & dancing?' sometimes one says 'shall we forget dinner and go to bed?!' We hold animated debate about things we are mutually interested in, support each other's careers, try to agree over the children (pretty much adults now) and never turn the television on other than for News or something we truly want to watch. I also (as does he) make a concerted effort to wear things which I know he particularly likes, Keep myself well groomed, never spurn his advances (but that's easy because he is gorgeous and considerate), and I make it known in public how much I admire him. Basically, it's keeping your eye on the ball. We are not very young and have been married for years but I watch other marriages falter because people get lazy about each other.

Answer 7

I can look all day, but I can never touch. I do sometimes put another person in my mind while we are having sex. Also, we dress up or listen to music. Just the little things help too= a hug, a sexy kiss every now and then, a small touch of the hand on the rump, etc. If you really love them, you will find a way to keep it hot.

Answer 8

When you have dated a ton of guys and then settle on the one to by your husband all tempataion is gone. Even if some guy looks really cute and things have cooled down in your marriage, you know that anything happening with the new guy wouldn't be worth it. No one knows you like your husband and it wouldnt' be worth risking it.

Answer 9

I truly think the key to a good strong marriage is trust. Knowing your spouse would never cheat on you is key. You just have to KNOW these things. Trust them. And then too, stay freaky in the sheets, that way temptation won't have any room to sneak in.

Answer 10

well if u're really in love with your husband there's no question of temptation . u keep the relationship alive by always communicating , doing little romantic things every now and then , cooking his favourite meal during the week and by resolving any argument before u go to bed if u've had a fight .