My boyfriend likes to go on websites that are pretty much exclusively for hooking up to chat and "see what's out there." He says it is because he has a fantasy for a threesome. He also says he never meets with these guys, but he does send them actual pics, of his face.
He travels a lot, so there really isn't any way for me to know if he is being truthful. What should I do?
2006-07-31 05:51:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have run into similar situations where if my boyfriend likes to go on gay chats that have the reputation for hooking up (gay.com, gaydar.com, etc.) and even though I trust him, it makes me wonder why he would want to go there.
I think once you reach a point in a relationship where trust is established, there's no need to feel like he's cheating on you... at the same time I don't find a reason to have to go on chats to begin with... what's the point?
2006-07-31 06:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem. If you are in a relationship and you don't trust your partner for any reason, it's time to get out. Jealousy based on facts is something that you can address as a couple in counselling; but unreasoning jealousy (where you don't have proof, but you are guessing something is going on) is a personal problem, and requires individual counselling.
If your bf likes online chatting, and you don't like him doing it, make a decision - do you want to live with that kind of stress in your life? Because as a wise man put it - "it's hard enough for me to change myself, I can't expect to change someone else". In other words, he'll continue doing this while he wants to, and if you nag him about it, he'll just move to doing it secretly. So if you can't just accept that he wants to do it and that he doesn't actually hook up with anyone, move out.
Do you find yourself with these jealousy issues in every relationship? If you do, then it will be very difficult for you to establish a permanent commitment with anyone unless you seek counselling and treatment.
2006-07-31 13:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hooking up if you are ok with that then fine. But if not then find you someone else. Because if he is looking and he travels for his work chances are he is hooking up in the towns he is travelling too. I would like to have the faith in a person to believe otherwise but I can't so sorry.
2006-07-31 12:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you I would be very suspicious. The two things you mentioned are worth finding out for sure what is going on.Talk to him see what your gut tells you by what and how he answers you. There are just so damn many people lying,cheating and hiding things from their significant other now days I hate it myself.I believe if anyone wants to play the field do so but don't be in a realationship if that's what they want.It just hurts so many people it's not right.
2006-07-31 13:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't jump to conclusions or start to assume. It could be complete and total Innocents. I would sit and have a long talk with your boyfriend and ask him whats really on his mind. Him wanting a threesome is a sign that he may be bored with you and you need to do something to spice it up. any more questions that you would like to ask me feel free to do so.
2006-07-31 13:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by Little_Major 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be just having fun -- and nothing for you to worry about. I speak to at least 10 people daily that my husband doesn't have a clue about (he also doesn't know that Im bi either so maybe he is just clue-less) anyway, I talk to alot of people but have no desire to cheat.....
So, don't worry unless he gives you reason to (if you nag him will only make him do it more)
2006-07-31 13:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the problem is a man is a sexual being. In hetero, they look for another woman, in homo, they look for another man to have different sexual experience. I do not say all men, but many of them if given green light to do it, they will, I think.
2006-08-01 00:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by teddybear1268 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.friendscyberclub.com/ this is the best website for chatting, i hope it helps, and also it has a leader board, a message board, you can make your profiles and upload photos,
2006-08-01 03:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by traffic to website, earn money, 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really interested on him, try to find out what's he looking for........................after that think about it........ stay or move on...... if you are jealous, just brake up, because that behavior will end up putting you on a hospital..................................
2006-07-31 13:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by snorlax72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋