2006-07-31 05:50:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anna 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I heard a saying: Being angry and bitter is like taking poison and hoping someone else gets sick. Happiness really is a decision that you make in order to take care of yourself. This is evidenced by seeing people with positive attitudes who have endured awful tragedies for example author Dave Pelzer who wrote "A Boy Called It" about triumphing over unfathomable child abuse. Sometimes I need to do a reality check in my life and ask myself what I need to do mentally and behaviorally to move forward.
2006-07-31 05:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by norsktjej1964 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear you are going through a bad time in your life right now. I've been there.
What worked for me is taking the time to look back on experiences that have brought you lots of joy and focus on an activity or hobby that can take your mind away from the bad situation at lease for a little while.
Maybe consult with a counselor or trusted friend/family member to discuss what you are going through and how you arrived at this point in your life. Analyze what you could do different so that you don't end up in the same situation again. Don't focus on the problem too much, because you will feel overwhelmed.
Surround yourself with only positive people whenever possible. You need people who will encourage you that things are going to get better.
Most importantly, be patient this will take time to pass.
Hope this helps
2006-07-31 13:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that no matter what happens there is ALWAYS someone out there who has it much worse than you.
Also smile alot. Even if you don't have a reason to just do it anyway. Look at yourself in the mirror and laugh, at nothing and everything.
Only let people that you know love and care about you come around you. Don't waste your time with people who you know are not worth it.
Do something for yourself, maybe change your hair, or buy a cool outfit, what ever you think would make you feel better. It's not selfish - it's therapy!
2006-07-31 13:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different things work for different people.
Cheer yourself up.
Do something that makes you naturally happy no matter what.
Do something you enjoy.
For me, the best way to be happy is to be with friends and loved ones.
Or maybe you can do something extraordinarily good or kind to someone else who is more in need of help than you do.
This uplifts you, gives you a rush, yet don't confuse it with a feeling of self-righteousness or an ego boost, but just enjoy it anyway.
Or get a piece of paper and a pen and start writing down those things in your life which you could be happy about or grateful for.
2006-07-31 12:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mohamad Latiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Incrementally. Find something good in each day. Do something you enjoy each day. Reach out to those around you-can you assist them in some way and enjoy doing it? Stop and experience things-really taste your food, close your eyes and hear the wind in the trees, or the song. Breathe deeply and smell the flowers, freshly cut grass, rain. Touch and be touched. Explore all of your senses and find the beauty that surrounds you. If you look for positive things, you will find them. If you look for negative things, you will find them. Try to have each person who walks away from you feel as though interacting with you was a positive experience.
2006-07-31 12:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the bad period like a cartoon playing in your head, laugh about it. The past does not equal the future!
2006-07-31 12:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to find out what makes you sad first. After you figure that out then you try to change how you react to certain things. It is difficult sometimes but you can do it. Get out and do different things with different people even if you don't feel like it. You will change your mind once you are involved with other things. Good Luck .
2006-07-31 12:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a really great book by Joyce Meyer that you can get called "Seven Things That Steal Your Joy". It really helped me realize that happiness is a choice that you have to be determined to make for yourself. Good luck!
2006-07-31 12:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by Buffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act as if you are happy and happiness will follow. When something bad happens just tell yourself that this will pass and don't go around talking abut your problems to others. It just makes the problem stay around longer then it needs to.
2006-07-31 12:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by heidinichole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a higher power. A previous suggestion mentioned Joyce Meyer and I love Joyce. View her website below.
2006-07-31 12:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by Bug's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋