we are only 24 and 25 and I am scared sometimes that he will get an urge to experiment elsewhere for the simple fact that he has never been with anyone else...have any of you only been with one person?
2006-07-31 05:20:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we met at sixteen and have been together ever since.
2006-07-31 05:26:26 · update #1
I have only been with my husband, but he has several other partners before me. The thing is you jsut have to fight your temptations jsut liek every other couple, and realize that youa re with the right person for you. Be honest with one another. I think it can wokr. Even people who have been around the block still get curious. you jsut have to resist.
2006-07-31 05:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It not only does not work against you, in this day and age it makes you very special. Several members of my family have married the only person they have ever been with and have been happily married for a long time, no cheating, no experimenting. Consider yourself lucky to have found your special someone on the first try. Let him know every day how happy you are with him and how much you love him. That will stay in his heart and mind and he won't have any interest in anything else. Keep having lots of fun together in all kinds of ways. Live, love, laugh and be happy.
2006-07-31 05:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by azharley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grass is always green on the other side, but as long as you both are willing to be open and experimental about your sex and your sexual desire, within a boundary you both setup for each other, you will do just fine. For example experimenting with toys and role playing maybe ok, but introducing a 3rd person in your bedroom should be a NO. You have to keep the spark alive, explore each other. Lust and Love together makes the best sex ever.
2006-07-31 05:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by spidermaniii_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is really an issue of self esteem for you. Sweetly bring up your concern to your husband, while at the same time make a suggestion to go to the bookstore together, and find a book with some good ideas on how to keep the romance alive and spice things up a bit for the two of you.
Best wishes
2006-07-31 05:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that having only had one partner makes you feel extra tempted to be with someone else. Usually infidelity has far more underlying issues then simply...sex.
I wish I could have only been with one person, my husband and he with me. There is nothing we can do about it but I think it bothers him sometimes to know that his wife has "been had" by other men and I can't help but wonder sometimes if he compares me to other women. All I am saying is I think you are both lucky. Sure you may always wonder what it would be like with someone else but you shouldn't. Sex with one partner usually gets better when you are with someone a while anyway. Communication make it better and you can experiment together with things you are comfortable with.
2006-07-31 05:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is great for you guys. if you are scared that he will experiment elsewhere, then experiment with him.if yous have been together that long then you must be best friends too. so go ahead. get a book if you have to, or a movie. experimenting together will be fun then he won't need that urge.
2006-07-31 05:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by wanda_wright92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your both still young, you don't want to know the rest of your lives.
So relax about it, make sure you stay open towards each other, and "cultivate" your feelings between you. Search on the Internet for information. Anything what will attract your attention is valuable to talk about. I think it takes 2 people who are responsible for maintaining their relation as well as your sexual life.
2006-07-31 05:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ole sos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want anyone other than the woman he loves, married and apparently saved himself for? Neither one of you have anyone to compare the other to, there are no sexual skeletons in your closet and you don't have an STD. Sounds perfect to me. Experiment with each other. Find out what he likes and dislikes, be every woman to him and he will never look else where.
2006-07-31 05:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by cathcoug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love each other you both will not think about how it will be with other people. It will not work against you because think that you do not need to think who each other were with and if one of you might have a disease. Do not listen to what the other people say.
2006-07-31 05:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by brown eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start making life interesting then. Watch videos, yes porn. It can give you ideas to keep him happy, If he is happy at home he won't go looking elsewhere, if you both watch you may see things you'd like to try, and experimenting is half the fun! You have to keep your life exciting......if it's exciting......neither of you will get bored!
2006-07-31 05:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋