what do you do when you have found someone who is perfect
who is all you have been waiting for all your life and he is madly in love with you too, but you are so scared to feel the same way because of your past experience
2006-07-31 04:56:37 · 20 answers · asked by bootilicious 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Sorry, I'm not a girl, but
Go for it, before you lose him.
You only have 1 chance to get with somebody
but a million to lose them
Don't fall just because of others
2006-07-31 05:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Eng 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dive in head first.
Never look back, this person is like no one you have met or been with before. Love is the most amazing thing that can happen to you, it can hurt at times but that is only because it is such an amazing feeling being in love.
This person is an individual, forget about all the scary things that might happen or have happened and be happy, if he is all you have been waiting for in life then do not let it pass. IT is something you will always regret. IF you are scared then tell him that, explain that there were bad things in your past, that will make him tread more lightly and show him that you do like him.
Enjoy life as much as possible and always look forward, forget what may have happened in the past, take as much positive things from a bad experience and move forward.
Good luck and Congratulations on finding something that most people spend their whole lives looking for.
2006-07-31 12:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by happy_healthy_world 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never know unless you try - treat your past experiences as learning curves and use these experiences not to make the same mistakes again. Life is about making mistakes and learning from them otherwise you will never get ahead. Also, I believe that everything happens for a reason - you may not know the reason immediately, but the answer will come to you at a later stage. Chin up & Good luck
2006-07-31 12:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by Jazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember no pain, no gain. What you experienced in the past should have given you some kinds of lessons. Learn from the past and enjoy now. Take it slowly, don't rush into anything. Noone can guarantee what will happen next but if just because of your past experience and give it up, you may regret in the future.
2006-07-31 12:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jay J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way. I am constantly thinking something is going to happen...he will cheat, get cancer, get into a wreck. You know, stuff like that. I have just learned, one day at a time, that if he wasn't happy with me then he wouldn't be here. And I cannot control whether he will cheat on me, and if he does I have to move on because I have a son and he needs me. Just try to let go of your past, and look at every situation as something new. Try to think positive, and just enjoy the time you have together. You never know what will happen, but you cna rest assured that whatever it is, you WILL get through it.
2006-07-31 12:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Good Gushy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow. Relax. Take chances. Wait to be properly wooed, and never have to woo. A woman becomes more attractive when she doesn't through herself headlong, at least some men have told me so. Keep him chasing you while you manage to break through your barriers, or he manages to. You don't have to run very fast, you know, just a bit - so that you do not become uneasy, and he doesn't get bored.
Try to lead him off with sense of humor, instead of blunt and painful refusals. That way you will know you don't wound him deeply, and he knows you don't want him to really quit...
Good luck.
2006-07-31 12:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take the risk if u dont u might regret it life is full of them and u'd get nowhere if u didnt take that small step. and u cant let past experiences cloud ur judgement u av 2 kiss a few frogs b4 u find a prince
2006-08-04 09:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by rebecca g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
close your eyes and let it happen. 6 months after i had split up from my ex husband for beating me up i met the most wonderful bloke who after 2/3 weeks just felt he was my mr wonderful, rather apprehensively i let him meet my 2 boys, we got engaged after another week when my eldest lad (age 4 at the time) asked him do you love my mummy, b.f said yes, son asked are you gonna marry her then, b.f said yes if i would like to. (i said yes incidently) so we brought a house and moved in together after 6months. this was in 1999, we married in november 2000 and are happier today than we was then!
good luck for the future, form the taylors. ps we had a little girl in june 2002.
2006-07-31 13:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by tina t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I would ask God but then I'm a nutty Christian. besides that, I would say take it very very slowly and give them nothing until you are sure, but be aware that one day you will have to risk your heart again or spend a lonely life. hope this one works out for you
2006-07-31 12:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't hold back...... we are all guilty and of holding back due to past experience, scared of what will happen if we do let go...... if we give ourselves fully.... we are then left open to be hurt........ if you know deep down that this feels different to any of your other relationship..... then give yourself fully.......... talk to your boyfriend about how you are feeling and why you are holding back......... enjoy your relationship gf..... what have you to lose let go of the past........ it don't do anyone any good....... look to your future and good luck
2006-08-04 05:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by Carlette D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋