I am feeling a bit paranoid today! You are all going to call me silly etc because women normally have the opposite problem to mine, but hear me out!
OK. I am a 32F and needed a strapless bra to wear under a nice dress. I went and looked and could only find big horrible things that looked like some sort of orthopaedic support! Not flattering, not sexy! In fact, all my underwear is pretty much built to make sure the bad boys don't move all day!!
I can't find any sexy undies, and the ones I have give me sore shoulders each day because my boobs are so bloody heavy! And once, I asked my hubbie to give me a shoulder rub and he told me to get stuffed. Only he put in in a much more rude way. I haven't ever asked again!!!
The rest of my body is kind of curvy, I'm a size 12 so am in proportion.
Most women moan about their boobies being too small, so I feel a bit like a freak. And with hubbie not wanting to come near me I feel a bit wierd today!!
2006-07-31 04:54:26 · 13 answers · asked by Rae 3 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Once you manage to find your self some sexy undies, tell him to get stuffed and find a man that wants you ALL the time!
2006-07-31 04:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
Your hubbie married you when you had big boobs, so he can't be changing his mind about how he feels about you now! Tell him most guys drool over women with boobs like yours, lol.
Perhaps a reduction is in your future. If you can get it okayed by a doctor that it's for the well-being of your back and shoulders, it could be covered by insurance too!
I'm a proud 36 A, sometimes B. I can wear more clothes and stuff, although sometimes I wish I could have some clevage!! I would kill for clevage!
So yeah, get a reduct for your own health, but make sure you still have some clevage. That would be the perfect set of knockers. lolol
2006-07-31 05:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by mktobyjo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what to say to give you some reassurance. Your hubby doesn't sound very sympathetic. Too bad he can't wear a device that's the size and weight of your breasts for a day - especially a hot, humid day - and see what you go through.
If your breasts cause you that much discomfort have you considered breast reduction surgery. Not that I'm a fan of any type of plastic surgery, but I'd think in your case it's justified if only for health reasons.
Hope your day gets better :)
2006-07-31 05:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what reassurance I can offer - but I can identify with what you're saying. My boobs are pretty heavy, and strapless bras are out of the question (they don't stay up).
The grass is always greener, isn't it. Women with small boobs would give anything to have what we do.
Your husband sounds like he needs a kick up the backside. Wouldn't kill him to give you a shoulder rub, would it?
The best thing about us women is that we come in all different shapes and sizes - you are perfectly normal. And there are plenty of men who'd think they'd died and gone to heaven with someone like you.
So chin up - and flaunt those assets, girl.
2006-07-31 05:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem. la senza do great bra's for us girlies who are top heavy! they're pretty and fashionable but they do big sizes. i've just got a strapless one from there and it's really good and supportive. but the best thing about that shop is they stock the same styles for the bigger busted woman as they do for tiny busted woman so you don't feel so miserable when you go shopping.
and as for your husband, give him a taste of his own medicine. or just glam yourself up and go on a few nights out without him. that'll soon make him buck his idea's up and realise he's lucky to have you and soon he'll be begging you to let him give you a shoulder rub.
2006-07-31 05:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by iloveF1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, wish I could help.
I'm only a 36DD in comparison and I have trouble finding pretty bras.
I tend to shop in LaSenza for all my underwear, they cost a bit more but at least they make you feel sexy.
Have you considered having a boob reduction? If they really get you down, you could get one on the NHS, Speak to your GP.
2006-07-31 05:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont know how lucky you are-before i had my son i was flat chested and hated myself more than you can imagine, I couldnt even get naked in front of my bloke without wanting to cry...luckily ive filled out and feel so much better, so stop feeling insecure and flaunt your assets-your hubbie can probably sense your insecurity and thats why he doesnt want to come near you-if you show him how sexy your body is he'll be gagging for you trust me!!And if you want sexy big bra i go to figleaves and theyre great!!!Now Im all woman I wouldnt shop anywhere else!Good luck!
2006-07-31 05:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by tara priya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your fella didn't want to rub your shoulders because it's boring. I don't like doing it either but it's nothing to do with the way I feel about my girlfriend. It sounds like he's been a bit rude to you though and you should pull him up on it if he's upset you. I'm sure it's nothing to do with your figure though.
2006-07-31 05:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. i'm a 34F nd have lost weight but they get bigger. i got some nice bras from Debenhams gorgeous range and ann summers that fit and are comfy enough. i have neck pain and headaches and my fella gets reluctant to give me a massage too..yet they like to play don't they? you are fine and you should get yourself a massage once o fortnight mininum. the rest of my body is size 10 and yes guys look and it can make you feel conspicuous. i'd love to have a conversation with someone looking in my eyes..when they don't i make mouths with my hands and use them next to my bust while i talk. people don't do it again! your fella sounds like mine and doesn't understand that you need reassurance... if he lost 3 inches from his **** how would he feel? chin up anyway. best wishes M
2006-07-31 05:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by minerva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your husband was very rude to say that to you.
it sounds like you have a lovely figure, slim with big boobs is ideal. if your husband doesnt appreciate your figure i'm sure there are plenty of men who will!
the downside to big boobs, as you've obviously noticed, is that bras are designed to stop them flopping about everywhere. try www.bravissimo.co.uk, they do nice bigger bras that don't look like instruments of torture
and be proud of your curves!
2006-07-31 04:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋