I'm 33 and I have been in a relationship for 14 years with a guy, he went to a trip with his family and left me alone for two weeks ( we live together, 13 years), my friends invited me to the SanDiegoGay Pride and i met a wonderfull guy, we did not have sex, we talk, and he gave me the nicests hug i have ever gotten, he gave me his phone number and we said good bye, it felt wrong, i felt sad, i cant tell you why,,,,i'm still sad, my boyfriend comes tomorrow, i dont know what to do.... i don't undertand what is happening to me.... help......
2006-07-31 04:37:32 · 6 answers · asked by snorlax72 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You were lonely having to go without your boyfriend to San Diego. I've never been there for Pride, but I've been to City fest in Hillcrest a couple of times, and it is magical. It is natural for you to feel warm and fuzzy when you're lonely and you get attention from a desirable guy. But there are 1000's of desire able guys out there, and you have only one boyfriend.
If there is something missing in your relationship with your boyfriend, the two of you need to talk that out, and see what you can do to bring it back into your lives. Don't rule out couples therapy if there is a serious problem, you have to much invested (14 years) to just to just toss it out the window.
As for the guy you met? It was a passing thing. You both were alone in a strange place. Remember it as a fine time, and an affirmation that you're still attractive to other desire able men, then throw away his phone number and move on.
2006-07-31 05:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by michael941260 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing's happening to you. You were attracted to someone...I think that after a 14 year relationship you can balance how much you have to lose vs how much you have to gain...You can't base a new relationship on hugs that felt good. If you feel guilty because you enjoyed yourself and the attention lavished on you-- that's okay.....just make sure you balance things out in your life and do what is really in your best interest. There a lots of nice guys out there who can make you feel attractive and interesting and give you great hugs but not many that you want to wake up next to every day for 14 years. :: Source...been in a relationship 19 years..im GWM 57 years old.
2006-07-31 05:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what is the temperature in your relationship with your lover. If its reading cold; try to spice it up or make some sudtle changes. In regards to the guy at San Diego Pride; just let him know that your taken, that you would like to establish friendship. The guilt that you have is a false trip; unless in your mind, you really wanted to be with the new guy. Only you and truthfully answer that question.
2006-07-31 04:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down--away from the computer--clear your mind of everything. Picture yourself with your boyfriend. Picture yourself without him. Which one is what your heart wants?
Take into consideration that you don't know much about the parade guy, but you know almost everything about your boyfriend. Which is what you want?
2006-07-31 04:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by Becky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 years is a long time to just throw away on a good hug.
2006-07-31 04:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your ready for new and different schlong-sicle in your life...
2006-07-31 04:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by J. T. N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋