You're in a tuff situation, all right . . .
Best wishes to you in figuring it out - only YOU know the best answers to this one. . .
2006-07-31 04:31:21
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answer #1
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answered by Anonymous
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If your wife has more male friends than female friends, she's a flirt who may be considering taking it to another level. I mean, this guy is putting down her husband in an email and she doesn't defend you??? He's positioning himself as better than you. It's no different than two elks slamming their heads together to win the right to mate with the female. And she's given this same guy your home phone number???
Sit her town and talk with her and tell her how you feel and what you think is going on. Tell her that you think these relationships with these single men (I'll bet they are single, aren't they?) is not good for your marriage and needs to cool off a bit. If she doesn't want to make a choice between you and her male friends, you, sir, have a problem. You can see a counselor or turn the table and get a female "friend". have some women from your office come over to hang out with you and then tell you wife you and this woman are going to hang out at the bar for a bit and you'll be back later. I'm pretty sure she'll get the idea of how you feel about her and her male friends pretty fast.
2006-07-31 04:37:14
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answer #2
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answered by bodinibold 7
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First it's not wrong for you wife or any woman for that matter to have close male friends. What is wrong is to have her friends, no matter their sex, to speak of you so negatively. Here's the problem, was he speaking his own opinion or was he making this judgment from things your wife has told him? Sit down and calmly talk with your wife, notice the word "calmly"? Ask what is really going on, is she happy, why would have friend feel this way about you? Listen to her answers openly and honestly. Sometimes what a woman wants most is her husband and doesn't care about the money so much.
Secondly, telling who she can and cannot be friends with is treating her like a child. This can and will cause major problems in your relationship. You don't have to like her friends, but respect the fact they are there. Just try to find out why his opinion of you is so low.
Good luck
2006-07-31 05:03:41
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answer #3
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answered by Kati 2
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I have mostly male friends, and my husband is fine with it, I work with mostly males. It's an issue of trust. Maybe your wife confides in these friends about what she dislikes about you, but you need to ask her why this guy thinks you are such a bum. Maybe she will open up to you.
When you leave someone with a threat like you did, she undoubtedly told this to her friend, and thus just added one more reason for her to complain to him, because now you're trying to be controlling.
On the other hand, you could get a female friend and see what your wife thinks, have her call your house when you know your wife will be there to answer, and when she asks you about it, say it's just a friend from work that I talk too, and see what she thinks about that!
2006-07-31 04:38:20
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answer #4
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answered by rdhedhottie 5
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There's nothing wrong that your wife has a lot of male friends. But your wife must know the space she gives to her friends. There is no way another guy can talk negative about you to your name in the name of friendship. If it was a women friend it is OK to a certain extent. But no matter what, even if you are going through a rough time in your relationship, your wife's so called friends have no right to talk about you behind your back.
If they were really your wife's friends and want your wife to be happy with her family i don't think that person would have sent a mail like that. He would have called you both out somewhare and sort out things between you instead of talking bad about you behind your back.
SHOW YOUR WIFE ALL OF THESE ANSWERS AND EXPLAIN TO HER THAT HOW SHE RESPECTS HER HUSBAND IN FRONT OF HER FRIENDS IS HOW THEY WILL SEE YOU... TELL HER TO CHOOSE WHO'S IMPORTANT... HER FRIENDS OR HER HUSBAND.
2006-07-31 04:44:12
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answer #5
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answered by Theo 1
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Adam left his wife alone and went to work naming the animals.
Women do not like to be abandoned. If after work you are too tired to give her her conjugal comforts, you are begging for trouble. If you approach her and she is not interested you are in trouble. If you have a wonderful sex life and her friendship with these guys are mainly lunch dates and she is home after work at a reasonable time and she loves and respects you and your children, then you might be getting jealous for nothing.
However, see if there is any smoke. Where there is smoke there is usually fire. Get counseling together first.
Boaz.
2006-07-31 04:36:04
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answer #6
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answered by Boaz 4
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If you are not involved in the friendship then I dont think its right. There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex but it should be that you all get together and know each other. Its not my fault the world sucks and people cant be trusted. That's just the way it is.
2006-07-31 04:34:30
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answer #7
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answered by JustMe 6
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If you trust your wife the friendships should not be a problem however in this individual friendship your wife should step up and defend you as her husband AND ask him if they are continuing to be friends not to degrade you. If she doesn't you should consider her loyalty to you and your family! You are suppose to be her life partner - her other half.
2006-07-31 04:33:05
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answer #8
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answered by prettyfroggy 2
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Well, look I'm a young woman who has alot of male friend but that's only because I feel as if women keep up to much mess. You guys really need to talk about this.
2006-07-31 04:31:17
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answer #9
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answered by Anonymous
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Good question and I'm sorry that she said that to you, but I'm married too and i have all female friends.But they all know I'm married and we keep in strictly friends, but i wont lie to you and say we don't flirt a bit.But i tell my wife everything.So what I'm trying to get at is that, its OK to have friends but keep it at a limit.I think you should ask her why he called.You have the right to know.Do you have female friends? Good luck
2006-07-31 04:32:36
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answer #10
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answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6
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yes. I understand your dilemma. I would feel uncomfortable too.
you see, love is conditional. if you really really love her. you won't mind that she sleeps with all of them. some people need exclusivity some don't . even if you do not want to have close female friends get some. and see how she reacts. what goes around may come around. i would not put up with it. i would tell her to leave.
2006-07-31 04:39:13
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answer #11
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answered by Anonymous
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