How to kick out a boyfriend?

Question

Gave my boyfriend who has been living in my house with me for 3 years. I bought the house with the intent to have him help me fix it up. He is not holding up his end of the bargain. I gave him an ultimatium in June to get a fulltime job on the books or start work on our house by July 31 or I am selling. Well today is the deadline, how do I tell him? I dont want to be in the house without him so I am planning to vacate the house while it is being sold. Help!!!!!

Thank you ALL so much for the wonderful responses. I just need to find a backbone and do it. I fortunately have the support of my entire family and all of my friends have actually picked a day to move me out! I want to be out of the house to fix it up to sell it since he did NOTHING of any real value for 3 years. THANK YOU ALL ONCE AGAIN!

Answer 1

"The problem is all inside your head, she said to me
The answer is easy if you take it logically
Id like to help you in your struggle to be free
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover

She said its really not my habit to intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning wont be lost or misconstrued
But Ill repeat myself at the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

Just slip out the back, jack
Make a new plan, stan
You dont need to be coy, roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, lee
And get yourself free

Just slip out the back, jack
Make a new plan, stan
You dont need to be coy, roy
Just listen to me <-----------
Hop on the bus, gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, lee
And get yourself free

She said it grieves me so to see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do to make you smile again
I said I appreciate that and would you please explain
About the fifty ways

She said why dont we both just sleep on it tonight
And I believe in the morning youll begin to see the light
And then she kissed me and I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

Just slip out the back, jack
Make a new plan, stan
You dont need to be coy, roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, lee
And get yourself free

You just slip out the back, jack
Make a new plan, stan
You dont need to be coy, roy
Just listen to me <------------
Hop on the bus, gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, lee
And get yourself free"

Answer 2

Since you've already given him the ultimatim, then it's time to put the threat into action. Did you per chance happen to put it in writing? Thus you can take it to the authorities for his eviction.
If not in writing, perhaps your only recourse is to call the authorities to evict him. Or consult with an attny.
Last resort, put his belongings in trash bags, out front. Remind him TODAY, that today is THE day....via whatever methods you're able to reach him...that his stuff is at the curb, and he'd best retrieve it. Otherwise, it will be picked up by the trash collector. Then IMMEDIATELY change the lock on THE door that he has the key for. For your sake, I do hope that he's not one to become violent. And thank your lucky stars you have no children! If he tries to enter, or threatening in ANY way, call the authorities IMMEDIATELY! And PRESS charges for tresspassing if need be. Apparantly he's NOT taking you seriously.

Answer 3

I'm trying to figure out where you have any leg to stand on. If the house is in your name, you can do whatever you want to with it. By living with this man before you were married---also no legal leg to stand on----he could, in fact, sue you for breach of an implied contract by this post alone.

You asked him to move into that house with you so he could do contractor work. Is that correct? He's been living with you---unmarried to you---for three years. The sole purpose for his moving in was to work on the house? Well, that's what he could tell a judge in civil court. His position would be that you are breaching an implied contract: He could live there, rent free, if he supplied labor in the renovation of the house. Since his name is not on the mortgage or the deed of the house, then he could, with a good attorney, sue you for full payment for what labor has been put into the house, as well as for a percentage of any equity realized if you sell the house. His position: The work he has done on the house brought more market value than the sale would have brought had he not done any work.

People who live together before they're married are opening themselves up to so much garbage. But it should be that way because you're not supposed to live together before you're married.

If you push a deadline for him to move out---and, if you put a house up for sale that he has invested labor in---then you can be sued. He could also take out a contractor's lien on the house keeping you from selling the house until you pay him whatever he believes he's owed for work done.

I wouldn't push a deadline of anything if I were you. You could end up having to sign the deed over to him free and clear if you do.

Answer 4

Definitely stick to your word...but maybe remind him. If you guys don't have relationship issues because of the house (meaning that you could live separate places but still be bf and gf) then talk to him. It wouldn't be nice to just pack up and leave, even if he isn't acting nice about it. Give him some warning, and remind him. Make sure not to put him on the defense. There's no sense ruining a good relationship just because you're living in the same house.

Answer 5

First of all, ultimatiums never work. If you have to do that, then he is not worth it. I would ditch him and keep the house and fix it up alittle at a time, never know, you may meet a handy man that would be quite willing to give you a helping hand,

Answer 6

You gave him all the warning he needed. If he doesn't give an answer or start working today you need to kick him out! If you feel threatened by him, get some friends of yours to help you when you tell him. Or perhaps get a restraining order. If that's not necessary, you just need to come out and be direct with him or else he will walk all over you!

Answer 7

Just say it and kick him out. Why are you moving out of your house? You own it. He should be the one looking for a new home. If you're really nervous about how he'll act tell him in public or have a couple of friends come over to back you up.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

You already gave him the ultimation, so he does know. Now you just need to tell him your immediate plans, which involve both of you moving out. Tell him when he has to be out by, and make sure you change the locks on that day.

Answer 10

Tell him he must find a new place to live. If all else fails, get a lawyer and the cops involved. Or, get some guys to physically remove him and put his stuff on the curb and have the locks changed.

Answer 11

change the locks when he is not home.
don't give him the new key.
put his stuff on the porch, call and tell him it is on the porch.
so he can come get it before it rains.
i know it sounds harsh but often there is no other way.
if you feel nice give him 3 days notice that he has to get out.
if he doesn't get out then do the above.
make sure he doesn't have access to your checking acct, credit cards or other money.