if you had to?
2006-07-31 04:24:42 · 14 answers · asked by uimblue 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you really loved someone and you were married but was unhappy, I don't see how a divorce is going to make you happy. First I believe that your happiness only comes from within yourself. so you won't find it any where you go , you will still be unhappy. People and things are jobs are not where you will find your happiness, but if you are already happy, then these other things can be added to your happiness, thats extra , I do agree the misery loves company. this question could be answered in a few different ways. depending on the situation. one is unhappy but not the other, to me that is not grounds for divorce. they need to do some soul searching to find out why he/she is not happy. and take it from that point. hope you see my reasoning of maddness here. I don't mean to confuse you, but you asked.
2006-07-31 05:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what would make you happy, and what the reasons were that made you think you needed to give up on your marriage.
I think that it's very important to be happy, but that happiness is based on peace of mind. If you cannot have that while you are married, then I'd say it's time to get out of the marriage.
If you think you'll be happier single because you are simply bored, or want to spend your time making lots of money, or chasing after the opposite sex, chances are you won't be any happier afterward.
Examine your motives, and what will truly make you happy. It's a spiritual, psychological, and philosophical issue that people struggle with for years.
2006-07-31 04:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very interesting question...I would give up a marriage no matter long it was to be happy. Why, because life is too short to miserable, and usually if one ain't happy in the marriage-then odds are that the other isn't either...so, you have to miserable unhappy people making everyone around them miserable too.
So, yes, I would give it up, call it quits to find happiness, and hopefully both of would be better off. There is alot of couples that stay in a relationship for the kids, finances, or just don't want to be the first one to call it quits. Or they don't want to be the "bad guy" in the divorce, but I would rather be the "bad guy" the one to call it off then to make myself miserable. It's unhealthy to be sad or unhappy, so...let's just pack it up and call it day....God bless us all.......
2006-07-31 04:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a person that has had lots of bad things happen to me from my selfish infidelous wife, my first goal at happieness would be to get back what we had lost between us,, giving things the necessary time to get it together. Not getting it together in a reasonable amount of time would make me pursue a life of happieness trust and fidelity with someone else thats willing to put an honest effort into a relationship.
2006-07-31 04:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, I preferr to make others happy, and find myself to be happy as a side effect. Unless your signifigant other is intentionally hurting your happiness with their words or actions, your happiness is subject to your own state of mind. I could sit back and dwell on every little thing my husband has done to piss me off, and all the cute guys out there that I would have fun running around with if we were not together anymore. But, we love and forgive eachother, and I find thinking about the good things he does is much more fulfilling than trying to get rid of him and be selfish. Plus, we have a child together who loves us both, and we think of his happiness when we doubt eachother on rare occasions.
2006-07-31 04:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am happy and i didnt have to go far im 22 my g/f is 18 we got 2 kids were both happy and in love and no id never brake our marriage
2006-07-31 04:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at some point you need to be happy. i dont think i need to tell you how short life is. exspecially if you took the time to raise a family.eventually it has to be yours. its important not to have to many regrets. after all on your death bed what do you want to think of. how you should of?good luck.listen to your heart or gut they communicate with each other
2006-07-31 06:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, Positively. You only have one life to livetime to make the most of and be happy!
2006-07-31 04:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by mkjhfiuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! Without happines what kind of life r u really living??
2006-07-31 04:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-07-31 11:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by river_runs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋