I believe that I am pregnant...?

Question

I'm finding out today for sure, at 3pm, after I call the doctor for my test results, if I am really pregnant or not. Thursday I took 2 home pregnancy tests, and they both came out to be positive. I'm 25, and I'm pretty scared. I don't believe that for myself, abortion is an option. I really don't think it's right for me. I am not against it for others, I am just really confused right now. It's so hard these days to raise a child in this world. I don't know that I can give my child what he/she would need. I'm so scared. Does anyone have any advise for me??? Do you know of the after affects of abortion, and should I possibly think about getting one if I'm not ready for pregnancy?

When I took the tests, I was 8 days late.

Answer 1

Give yourself some time to really think about this and the permanence of your decision... either way.

Personally, I am a single parent. My daughter's father left me when I was 8 months pregnant. Getting ANY support from him has been like pulling teeth. My daughter is 9 now - I was 24 when I had her.

To tell you the truth, we have had some good times and some bad times - financially speaking. I am SO GLAD that I have her and how I have changed since I had her. I have become more motivated to be a better person in all ways. I try to show her that a person can have (and live) their dreams and deal with their responsibilities and try to live a happy life.

Some people have told me how much they respect me for being a single parent and doing a good job... they tell me how hard it must be and all that. Personally, I did not think that it was all that hard. I have a child to raise, I want to do the best that I can for her, and I really try to do that. She gives me a lot of motivation and a lot of strength. She keeps me grounded and focused. She makes me smile and laugh!

So, that is my story for you to consider. I am one who believes it is a very personal decision that you are making - and I am also one who has been through being a single parent from birth through now. I can't tell you that it is all fun - but for me it has been TOTALLY worth it and I would make the same decision (in a heartbeat) again.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Well to me there are better things than abortion.
It's your choice though.I am an 18 year old mother of a boy who is 2 years old and I am very proud.I am not saying I wasn't ready to become a mom,i honestly wasn't!Did I think of abortion?Yes I did infact that was my first choice ever!I was gonna go through with it and then when I was at the abortion clinic in the waiting room,I thought to myself "Would I be here right now if my mom had done the same and she was 15 years old!" So at that point on I knew either adoption or parenting was right for me,I had contacted some agencies at the time but decided to keep it.
I am very happy with the choice I made.This fall I will be starting my freshaman year at Princeton University in New Jersey.I will be starting my undergrad in Biology.I am becoming a doctor.
My child I think one day will make a differrnce in the world.
But I would never know If I had an abortion. My 21 year old sister just recently found out she was pregnant but gave it up for adoption instead.Also to answer your question about side effects of abortion you may expierce Abdominal pain and cramping.
Nausea ,Vomiting ,Diarrhea ,Spotting and Bleeding ,and many others,as well.I know this because my best friend had one last year and expierced all that and also severe bleeding and pain for a long time.She said off and on the pain still comes back.I am not trying to discourage you but I am telling you.Well best of luck to you whatever you do!And who knows ...you might not even be pregnant!

Answer 3

I don't believe in abortions, oer say. There are plenty of other options out there for unwanted pregnancies. Adoption would be an excellent option. There are so many couples who would love to have a baby that can not have one on their own. As for raising a child, yes it is very hard but one of the most rewarding experiences in life that there is. I have two daughters from a previous marriage and expecting my third very soon. As a mother, as long as you love your child and provide for it the best you can, that constitutes giving it what it needs. As for the affects of abortion, physicallly if done wrong could cause you to never be able to have children. it could also damage you mentally as well, if you are even the slightest unsure of your decision. But then know womenwho have had abortions and have went on to have children later and don't seem to have suffered any physical or mental devastations. I think this is a choice you are going to have face alone. No one can tell you what is right for you in the end.

Answer 4

Hi, I'm 24 and have 3 1/2 year old twins, I was in your place once upon a time, 20, scared to death and not knowing what to do. I personally could not have an abortion, I know other people have their reasons, but the guilt would probably have killed me. Yes, it is hard to raise children in the world we live in, but I have managed, we've had some really hard times, but realize you need to do what's right for you. Adoption is also an option, there are SO many couples out there facing infertility, and they would give a baby so much love. Take your time, and think about it, you need to do what is right for you, what you can live with and what's best for those involved. But do know, if you choose to keep the baby, YOU CAN DO IT.

Answer 5

I don't know how you will take this, but it is rare to get a false positive on a hpt; How late were you when you took them? Most offices say to wait a week after the first day of missed af to take a blood test because they are usually only as sensitive or less sensitive then the home tests. If you believe in your heart that abortion is not for you, don't let anyone try and change your mind or press their ideals on you. There is always the option of giving the baby up for adoption if you feel that you are really not ready to take care of a baby; Just listen to your heart and what feels right for you.

Answer 6

Here are your options:

1) Have the abortion. Pros: no pregnancy, no baby, no one even has to know really. Cons: Guilty conscience, potentially effects your ability to get pregnant in the future (i don't really know about this, talk to a doctor)

2) Have the child but put it up for adoption. Pros: no baby for you, bring great happiness to a family who can't have a child of their own. Cons: you will have to go through the pregnancy all the while letting people know that you'll be putting the baby up for adoption, maybe you'll have a hard time giving up your baby once it's born.

3) Have the child and keep it. Pros: you'll have your own child, friends and family will flock to you to help you and to meet/love this new wonderful addition to the world. Cons: a big responsibility, the end of childless freedom as you know it. In this case, you have to remember that people have had babies in much worse situations than yours (maybe much younger, maybe with a totally unsupportive family, mabye with no way to financially support this child on their own)... and they all thrived!

You have to pick what is right for you, and you have to harden yourself to the criticism you'll get from others (because no matter which option you pick, someone will have an opinion to share about it).

Some how, some way, everything will work itself out.

Answer 7

Take a deep breath...figure out if abortion is really a option for you. There is always adoption. Keeping the baby is another. there is a lot of support services out there that can help you. Talk to your doctor ask about organizations like Planned Parenthood that can help you make the right decision for you. Your not the first woman to go though this and you won't be the last. Seek support from friends and family. Good luck

Answer 8

If you are truly not ready for a child there are many couples out there that would be willing to adopt. In situations like this there are some couples that would even be willing to have you visit your child as he or she grows so that you do not miss seeing your child grow up. this is the best option that will allow you to keep your self-respect as it is clear you do not want an abortion. if you decide to go this route, it will be one of the hardest decisions you ever make, but in the long run, knowing that you gave your baby a chance to grow up in a loving family with the means to care for him or her will ease the pain.

Answer 9

Anyone who is not ready to bring up a child should not take in the child. It will be better for you to manage and be taking care of that baby than to dream of aborting. When you are aborting it is against the will of God and you are before life and death.

Answer 10

The fact that you are scared for your baby coming into this world means that you will be a wonderful mother. Just have the baby and enjoy it. If you wasn't worried about it than you wouldn't be a good mother. 25 is a good age to become a mother. A baby is a gift from God. Just love it and give it all that you can and everything will be jsut fine!