We have known eachother only via phone, email & pictures for the last 6 years. We both got married two years ago. We have a strong desire for eachother & want to meet. It would be a day drive for us both - and we would have to lie & cheat to do it. Should we? We are both unhappy where we are, but happy with eachother.
2006-07-31 04:10:32 · 14 answers · asked by its okay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know a lot of people would say no because you are married. However, what if this ended up being "THE ONE" and you miss out. For that matter what if you go through life wondering what might have been. What negative effects will that have on other relationships in your life. I wouldn't engage in any adulterers behavior. Although I think lunch would be ok. Good luck.
2006-07-31 04:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by geni 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Certainly not. You don't know each other for 6 years at all. You have exchanged some e-mails, phone calls and pics. Big deal; as you have both probably fabricated some stories about yourselves over this time anyway. It's very sad to hear that you are both unhappy where your each at now. But perhaps if you had ceased corresponding with each other when you both met your significant other you wouldn't find yourself in the situation your in now. Besides not only would you need to lie and cheat to do it, which I would suggest your already guilty of but you may be extremely disappointed once you did meet.
Why not try and have an honest relationship with your mate and cease this make believe relationship you are involved in. There are many temptations in this world and the grass may look greener now and again. But I'm thinking that 2 years ago you each found somebody that meant something to you so let that person know and this and stop the cyber infidelity.
2006-07-31 11:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really happy with each other than what stopped you from getting together for the last 6 yrs ? You've both only been married for 2 yrs so what happened the 4 yrs prior ? I think you both want what you cant have. Of course you should not meet. News flash: YOUR MARRIED. If your both so unhappy there is this thing called getting a divorce.
2006-07-31 11:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to the question, you knew each other for 4 years before you each married someone else, either neither of you care about the people you married, or feelings for someone you have never met arent there. dont lie or cheat on your spouse that is not fair to anybody, if this phone/email relationship has lasted 6 years, it will be there later, deal with the current marriage before you move on. its not always true that the grass is greener on the other side, you may meet this person face to face the first time and have absolutely no chemistry, one thing at a time
2006-07-31 11:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U knew each other for 4 years. Then got married to different individuals. Spent 2 years of your life with them, and now when u r not happy with what u have, u want to TRY each other.....
How sure are you that ur new relationship (if it comes to it) will last as a happy life? U didnt have a spark in the 4 years before ur marriage. What u feel now is a feeling to escape the situation where u find urself trapped.
I wont comment on your married life, coz i dont know how ur partner treats u but having a person who really understands ur problem is a great strength. Just be careful, that u dont get used.
All said and done, U have only one life and u can live it only once, its ur pick how u want to live it. Meet this person - but dont lay all ur cards on the table. Try to know him personally, is he really so good? and Is ur partner really so bad......? And when you are doing this - give ur marriage another chance, try to work out the difference, speak to your partner (People usually dont have telepathy powers)
Its a good thing that you have someone in ur life who likes you, for the simple reason that now if you decide to stay with your husband/wife its because YOU WANT TO and not because YOU HAVE TO................
2006-07-31 11:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should at least meet each other. You have invested in a long friendship for years. Be honest with your partner if your not happy then your partners are not happy. Let you partner know your not happy and that you have things to sort out that maybe a few days apart will help you. Maybe seeing your friend will help the both of you realize what you have and that your lives were ment to be what they are. If your meeting as friends no big deal and if your relationship is strong you have nothing to worry about.
2006-07-31 11:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by spicy girl 1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU HAVE KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR 6 YRS. AND ARE SO HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER WHY DID YOU BOTH GET MARRIED TO OTHER PEOPLE 2 YEARS AGO ,JUST TO LIE AND CHEAT NOW? IF THIS IS REALLY WHAT YOU WANTED, YOU WOULD HAVE DONE IT WITHOUT QUESTION! IF YOU ARE FEELING CONVICTION OVER IT, IT IS WRONG. AND VOWS ARE SACRED, MADE BEFORE GOD, NOT TO BE TAKEN LIGHTLY!
2006-07-31 11:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your others first then meet - however remember the grass may not be greener.
2006-07-31 11:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce and than meet. You will regret it if you cheat. Even if your husband is a jerk.
2006-07-31 11:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't. Don't be a cheater.
If you're bound to leave the one you're with, do it up front and legally.
2006-07-31 11:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋