i have asked him numerous times to stop and he knows it hurts me but he goes online and "cracks" porn sites for guys and then if i work late i come home and its all in the garbage can or other places. he's not even tring to delete it he had his kids go to bed early so he could do it. i came home and they were all in the same room of a two bedroom apartment (4 kids) i got home about two and he told me they were cold but i asked them and they told me he made them go to bed at 10:30. what should i do he doesn't even care that it always makes me cry, he just comes home and denies it.
2006-07-31 03:58:39 · 31 answers · asked by nellie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i get out of work at 12 and have to go to my other job at 6 i work all day to support my family
2006-07-31 04:16:38 · update #1
Get out the toybox, take some really sleazy photos of yourself doing some pretty sleazy things, with the equipment available now it's easy to do without getting someone else to help you. Then send these to his email, and hint that you're thinking of making these public to his friends. After he gets over the shock of this, point out what he's doing hurts you and you want him to stop. But on the flip side, I know several women who not only don't care if their husband looks at porn as long as he's physically faithful, but encourage this behavior. They just aren't aways in the mood for sex everytime he's ready, and send him to his room to unload so they don't have to deal with it. Think about it
2006-07-31 04:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by onespryguy55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him, its not worth staying with someone who makes you cry. Espcially if he knows that it hurts you this emtionally. At least he could make an attempt to cut down or watch it once a day or whatever the hell you two would agree on. But I truly believe that you should find another man who will put you first and not some fake breasted lady that would probably never give your hubby the time and day.
And don't listen to people who say to let him watch it. Porn is VERY unhealthy for a marriage, ESPICALLY if one partner has a problem with it. Porn if very disrespectful to women, even if those women allow themselves to be filmed. NOT EVERY woman is like that and would like to get banged by 5 different men at once. Marriage is not taken serious anymore(more people see it as an extended boy & girlfriend dating until you get tired of them) Go find happiness with a REAL MAN who knows how to treat his wife and kids. I hope you can find happiness with a good man. Good luck!!! And stand your ground. God Bless You...
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2006-07-31 04:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most all men can't help but look at porn. Men are very visual creatures. More importantly is don't take it as a personal insult to you. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. Online porn is so easy to look at it, therefore it is easy for him to become addicted to looking at it, I mean afterall there is no greater pleasure than sexual excitement.
My concern is with him doing it when there are children in the house and him continuing to do it when you have asked him not to. He obviously doesn't care about the children or your relationship, because he is ignoring your request to stop. Also, this behavior can lead him to make some really bad choices in the future. He is out of control. You need to take some serious steps to stop it.
This is what I would do. First, I would tell him the engagement is off. Secondly, I would get rid of the computer. Thirdly, if you can't get rid of the computer because it is his personal property, I would move out and I would not leave my children with him.
If this doesn't make him stop, then you will have to break off the relationship.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-31 04:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by t f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, I'd say not to worry about it, but if it is becoming an obsession, then there could be a problem. Talk to him about it without being confrontational. Just tell him that your concerned that he's putting porn before his family. Maybe you could suggest counseling.
As for the kids going to be "early", 10:30 seems a little late in my opinion. lol
2006-07-31 04:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance is addicted to porn. This is serious and he really can't control it. He needs to stop cold or really seek some help. In which I don't think he will,tell him to stop or you should break up. I'm sure your children have seen some of the porn or caught him looking at it. The way you said he has it out like that. It isn't health for them.
2006-07-31 04:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by GoldenGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not worry about it that much , if he is not cheating on u , then let him look at porn . and 10:30 is a very good time for the kids to go to bed , because school will be starting soon u need to get them go to bed early , my husband look at porn but i don't worry bout it because i know he is not cheating on me . and if he get hot enough he knows he can always have sex with me
2006-07-31 04:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop him ... but you can explain your point of view, calmly and carefully without getting angry. If he won't listen and won't consider counselling, you should dump him!
Presumably you don't like porn or won't even consider looking at some to find out if it does anything for you? You never know, it might be the first step to a fulfilling relationship ... or the key to the way out and a whole new life!
2006-07-31 04:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like a gambler or alcoholic he is sick and addicted. If he refuses mental help then you had better get rid of him for the children's sake. He may next be starring them in kiddie porn movies or god knows what else. Call the police if you have to but keep him away from the children.
2006-07-31 04:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy, i think watching porns is normal, but with kids around no no no, there must be something wrong about this guy. Is he good in computer, why not ban those sites that contain nudity? or even better put that computer on ebay.
2006-07-31 04:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by Louie J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately it is about respect and he is not respecting your request that he stops it. Is he being paid to "crack" those sites for others? Which by the way is illegal... but nevermind that. If he is not being paid to do this, then he is doing it just for fun. And, if he knows it hurts you, that should be reason enough for him to stop. So, then you need to ask yourself, what are you doing with a man who does not respect you?
2006-07-31 04:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋