What do I do with an alcoholic roommate??

Question

I find myself needing to move out asap!!!!!!!!
last nights psychotic episode was toooo much!!!! he peed on the floor! (not the first time) even bed was wet i dunno... he spilled whole cup of coffee on floor and left me with the mess.
I didnt even sleep one minute last night due to the extra loud snoring as well, even in next room with earplugs, I could still hear it.
Plus I had to take an hour to wake him up this morning or he wouldnt have even went to work or even called them, and could of lost his job.
IM FED UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Sounds like he'll be losing his job soon anyway. If he does, you'll probably feel guilty about moving out then.

Git while the gittin's good.

Answer 2

Honey -- MOVE OUT PDQ! He has a problem you can't fix and you are enabling him by cleaning up after him and waking him up for work. He's an adult and it's his problem. He needs substance abuse help -- but no one can help him -- he needs to want help and go for it. Never put yourself in that type of situation where you are being manipulated by an alcoholic or drug addict. Even if you have to live in an 1-room place -- at least you'll have peace. Tears may come but for your sanity -- move out.

Answer 3

Okay, first, what you need to do is draw boundaries. You are absolutely enabling and reinforcing his behavior. Of course you should not be spending an hour waking him up. He should be allowed to miss work and suffer the consequences. If you attempt to prevent him from suffering a consequence of his drinking, you are empowering him to drink more.

I think your best bet is to move out, or perhaps to ask him to move out. But in the meantime, please draw real boundaries, and stick to them. Don't clean up his messes; make him clean them up. Don't help him get to work; let him lose his job. He isn't making you put up with him; you are volunteering for that.

Answer 4

Then move out. I doubt this is the first time he's ever acted like this, so you probably already had a clue about his behavior. Next time find a roommate who does not drink and is relatively quiet. And maybe try a girl.

Answer 5

Hate to answer a question with a question but. . . How does it happen that you are responsible for his behavior? You clean up after him? You have to wake him up? What do you get out of the relationship? It must be very powerful stuff to keep you cleaning up his messes.

Answer 6

By all means move out as soon as possible, and in the future be more careful who you choose as a room mate.

Answer 7

Sleep with him when he is all wasted, that will sort this out, give him a hand. Don't move out on him, embrace him, nurture him, buy him beer and whiskey. When he is passed out, write I am a wanker on his forehead and send him to work, pee on him, love him.

Answer 8

Move out ASAP

Answer 9

move out

Answer 10

Move.