what is the deal with this- I am very attractive and very open with sex he does not hide the porn but It just makes me feel insensitive, why do you guys watch porn if you have a dime?
2006-07-31 03:37:55 · 21 answers · asked by kimberly R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sex for men is more visual....for women it is more emotional. Guys just love the visual aspect of the female form and the act. Looking at porn has nothing to do with who they are with at the moment and if the are satisfied. Guys think about sex a lot more than women and thier sexual organs respond to stimulation even if they aren't aware. I agree...look at porn with him. You might also find it stimulating and it may even put more spice into your activities. Understand him....don't degrade him or question him.
2006-07-31 03:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do think his watching porn has anything to do with you being attractive or open with sex? Porn is a mental thing. Some men need the mental stimulation porn provides as well as the physical stimulation you provide. They have to get to a certain place mentally to be able to perform physically. The things that arouse us are set pretty early in life and for a lot of guys, porn is the first thing they "get off" on before they ever have physical contact with another person so it becomes part of their process. Besides once a man has seen a woman naked, he pretty much wants to see them all naked. It really has very little to do with you. Try to watch with him and you will find out what it is specifically that excites him. Remember, it doesn't matter where the appetite comes from, as long as he has "dinner" at home.
2006-07-31 10:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by azharley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really has nothing to do with you. That is his OWN unhealthy obsession. When a man has a good thing readilty available and that woman is willing to experiment and try new things AND it's still not enough, then that's HIM. Don't feel bad or inadequate because it has nothing to do with you. Maybe your man is a sex-addict, which really is an addiction. Try talking to him about it and telling him how it makes you feel. If he cares, he should try to make some adjustments to his behavior.
2006-07-31 10:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mellow_E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn kinda gives an extra drive...maybe he wants some more freaky stuff out of u...try something new rather than the same old routine. Do it on the stairs, floor, bathroom, couch..just b wild about it
2006-07-31 10:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a female but i know exactly how you feel what is the point my husband & i were extremely sexually active & he watches every single chance he gets i found a shoe box just yesterday with @ 50 or more in there & than there is masturbation that goes along with it i asked he says it is a guy thing i am sorry i do not but that anymore i feel humiliated hurt low he has killed my self esteem sweetheart if you do not stop it now it will only get worse i swore mine would change well see what i got we will be getting divorced soon he took it a bit too far he went outside our marriage to fulfill his dreams well god luck
2006-07-31 10:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by CYNDI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is porn alright i dont see why all these girls get soooo upset about there guys watching porn..... Its just something they do, and alot of chicks do.... i think watching porn is better then going out and cheating on you
2006-07-31 10:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by Meriah C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are visual creatures.
we are turned on by seeing..
women operate by relationships...
men can't "see" and do not operate that way.
they really are simple...
see sex, get horny...have sex with my woman...
women feel "they are not adequate to turn him on"
many are threatened by the porn...
watch it with him and both of you enjoy the turn on of the sharing it...acceptance on your part will make it GREAT for both of you.
if you just can't, tell him not to do it in your presence or not to let you know he is doing it because it bothers YOU.
or make it a deal breaker...choose..me or the porn...
it's how it's affecting you that matters...be YOU... you deserve to be happy and you are worth it.
2006-07-31 10:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by Life Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, men are visually stimulated.
Second, men also have an natural instinct to spread their seed. Could it be plausible that fantasizing about other women has something to do with that natural/primal instinct? Though, they of course don't necessarily act on it.
2006-07-31 10:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we always have an erotic fantasy, try to find the correct one for him, if you´re openmind, the porno films can bring u a lot of great ideas to how to satisfy him, talk to him about your feelings to get a balance point. Maybe, both of you can make a home-made porno film
2006-07-31 10:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Doppelganger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't watch porn as often as you make it sound but when I do it is just to see other naked chicks
2006-07-31 10:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋