My husband and i are separated?

Question

My husband and I are separted and working on getting back together. I have a daughter that's getting ready to go back to school.I work at night and i'm in the process of finding a day job, but until then. I ask him to move back in so my daughter can catch the bus at home. He told me no. what do I do

Answer 1

so much for working on things. he is liking the single life, and doesnt want to contribute to the responsibilites of marriage and family. so.....guess what? you really are single now, and you need to back away from depending on him. once you do that, he will take a look at you differently! by then, hopefully you wont need him and he will be the one left on the other side of the fence, so to speak. Try not to ask him for ANYTHING from now on. No matter how much of an inconvience it is. And try not to be available for him either. He isnt "working" on things. If he was, he would help you with a solution to this, instead, he leaves it to you to figure out.

Answer 2

first of all I'm sorry about u and your husband but u separated for a reason and i understand u have a child involed but since u asked your husband for this favor and he said no then i wouldn't want hI'm back see sometimes we want things back the way the use to be cause we are afraid of being alone but im sure u are a strong person and i think u are going to have to try and find another way to work out the problem with your daughter maybe u can get someone to make sure she gets on the bus until u can change your work history do u have a girlfriend or maybe ask a family member for help but your husband it not the way to go and i feel bad cause its his daughter and he should want to make sure she is OK sorry to say but that doesn't make him look good in yours or his daughter eyes it time to independent and its OK to b alone sometimes we all don't need a man to complete us u have that beautiful girl of yours y'all will get thew this just fine I'm sure we as women always do

Answer 3

Hes not ready to move back home so dont push it. make other arrangements for your daughter. Go on with your life as if hes not going to be apart of it and if its doenst work out then you've lost nothing. He could have offered to be there in the morning to put her on the bus for you but he apparently doesnt want to be a Father right now either. After you get your life set then you set the rules concerning him.

Answer 4

He is not your babysitter. You cannot twist his arm into moving back home if you are still working on your relationship. You want the convinience of a free babysitter, but you have to understand that you still have to work on your marital issues before you are under the same roof again.
I won;t be judgamental and jump into the conclusion that he is a bad father and that he doesn't care; the thruth is that if you rush into getting back together you are setting yourself up for failure and the result could be a disaster,
If you really want your family back together then allow both of you sometime to get your life in order and your issued resolved before moving back together.
We seldomly get things our way and relationships take sacrifice and compromising.
Good luck

Answer 5

I agree with Sassy.you are not ready for him to come back yet. and you need to find a good child care place for her to go to. Or find a nanny that can be there at night till you get home.from work until you find a day job.that will let you off so you can get her from the bus in the after noon.

Answer 6

Go to social services and they can help you find reliable and safe child care for your daughter. If the man won't help with the childcare when you're working two jobs, why do you want him back anyway?

Answer 7

You stop working on him and start living life.The fact that he has no concern for your daughter,means alot.Let him be and if he really loves you,he'll come back.But hopefully by then,you'll have moved on.I believe in trying o save a marriage,but when he has no regard for your child,what kind of a man is he anyways??!!

Answer 8

first:ask yourself,does he really want to work things out,or is he sticking around just to get a piece?I think it's the latter myself.but ii'd leave him at the curb anyway,just for the fact it's his daughter,too.and he can't help in anyway,even help in finding other alternatives.besides,how old is she,ishe she responsible enough to get herself up to catch the bus,or call home to make sure,or find a babysitter.

Answer 9

well me and my husband have being separated for almost two years because of his job , he is a self employed painter and there is no job over here so he don't live with me but he come over here when he got some work over here , so i would tell him if he son't want to come back home that u was going to get him for child support

Answer 10

Get a neighbor to help you. There must be another child nearby who is going to her same school. Your husband is not ready to move in. Get your own life. Become your own person. It is him who needs to fit in with you now. (Why must the woman always cater to these dimwits needs?)