I caught my husband cheating to months ago. He has begged for my forgiveness and says he wants his family back. We did have problems in our marriage. should we go to counseling to work through our issues?
2006-07-31 03:19:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Definitely. it would probably help you both alot.
2006-07-31 03:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can only help, especially you...You will be dealing with alot of issues in your self, trust has been broken...If you know that he really is sorry and wants to work on the relationship by all means try...If there were issues that was in the marriage then the counseling will get to the root so you can work on them...You both will have to be very honest about it so it will work so don't hold nothing back good or bad....but once you are honest you will feel relieved.....
2006-07-31 04:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by "gg" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling only works if both parties are interested in saving the marriage and doing what needs to be done to salvage it. Saying I'll change and actually changing are two different things. At a minimum you need counseling and you will make a better decision as to what your next move should be.
Best wishes.
2006-07-31 03:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infidelity in a marriage is grounds for a divorce and in GOD's eyes it wouldn't be a sin. But you have to ask yourself, if you want to forgive him or if you truely can. Forgiving him would mean not mentioning his infidelity and moving past it. If you can't do that, then it wont help to stay in the marriage. Me personally, i think depending on the situation, i would try counseling, at least to say we tried everything. Its really about what you can take and put up with
2006-07-31 03:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by younggb77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes counseling is good! But him cheating is not a good sign.Its not your issue its his! When you hear all these men say if a gal was good at home they wouldnt cheat! Hello! It was his choice to break his vows ,ruin his marriage ect,,,So no matter what you did at home is no excuse whatsoever! It is more like your husband has no control over his self and is very bad on his morals! I wouldnt really expect tht he will change ,The Im sorry line is very old ! Then they do it again later .He has shown u who he is ! What u see is what u get! so see it!
2006-07-31 03:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad to see he wants to work on the marriage. If you can get past the cheating then yes, marriage counseling may help.
2006-07-31 03:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is almost always a good idea. Even healthy relationships can benefit from it. If he really is ready to change this could be a key to falling in love again. The best of luck to you both!
2006-07-31 03:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If you're even debating about going to counseling, that's a sure sign. Plus you both have issues to work out.
2006-07-31 03:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by uwparker81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and believe that he can change then I would work things out. Ignore the people that say once a cheat always a cheat they are probably the ones cheating or the other lover. Follow your heart.
2006-07-31 03:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes and we learn by them so give him a chance and go to counselling. Maybe it will bring a new lease of life to your marriage.
2006-07-31 03:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by jewel_o_th_night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go! Maybe you should go alone first. Then have ur husband come with you! I would do what you have to do to get ur marriage back in order. Good Luck...
2006-07-31 03:25:48 · answer #11 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋