I have a male friend who I would consider my best friend even though I've only known him for about 6 months. Since the time I've known him we've really gotten close. We met at work and I quit and then he quit and got a job at the same place I had gotten a job. I've never been attracted to a guy before but I have some strange feeling towards him. I want to make him feel really special. I love girls but I want to do things for him. Like when he says his feet hurt or are tired from work I wanna give him a massage. I wanna perform oral sex on him because I think it would make him feel good. I want to make him happy. I really confused and dont really know what to do. I dont know what to say to him but I feel like I have to say something. I think he might feel the same way about me because of some of the comments he makes. Im thinking about getting drunk and talking to him about it. that way if he doesnt feel the same way I'll pretend I dont remember anything and things will go back to norma
2006-07-31 02:45:19 · 14 answers · asked by Michael M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Its a good plan...lol but really i think at this point your Bi cause you like women but would like to try this particular man. You don't want to loose him as a friend is the point....but if it is worth having a romantic relationship and you can handle loosing him talk around the subject to see what he thinks.....if you can be direct with out feeling ashamed skip the Alcohol and just ask him.
2006-07-31 02:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Rain S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think talking to him about how you feel is something that is very important. Why would you want to be drunk when you do this? I know you would rather be intoxicated to protect yourself but I do not think that is a good idea. What if this guy has the same feelings to you really want to be looking at him through double vision eyes because you are drunk? When you talk to him just make sure it is at a time where both of you can be alone and talk. Be completely honest about your feelings.Who knows you may end the night with sex. Hope everything works out. I've got my fingers crossed for you!
2006-07-31 10:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, getting drunk isn't going to solve anything cause you might react on the wrong impulses, as for going straight, what happens after a couple of months? Will old habits come back to bite you and him in the ****? Are you really being honest with him, if you wanna give him oral sex just for the hell of it, go ahead but be sure that the knows it is a fling and that nothing serious can come from it for in the end, you'll lose a friend for not being honest with yourself. Remember, a dog might act like a cat every once in a while, but he stays a dog.
Cheers, don't know if i helped at all.
Schuan
2006-07-31 09:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by schuan.heyliger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing the comments he made to you and what the situation was when he made then its uncertain to know if telling him all your feelings is such a good idea. You may lose your friend if hes not on the same page as you. Once you tell him you cant take it back drunk or not. The next time he says his feet hurt or hes tired from work you could always say... no kidding me too. what we need is a good massage. If he agrees then you could say....know any girls willing to do it? If not then say we could always give each other a massage and see what he says. Its just a thought. I do hope you can resolve this. Having a good friend is very important.
2006-07-31 10:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by ella s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really cool that you have found someone special like that. If you are getting a vibe from him then it's most likely what you are feeling. I would just talk to him and see what happens. If you are more comfortalbe when drunk well then, go for it. Just be honest with him and yourself. I hope things go the way you are hoping. If you want to talk more. Email me.
2006-07-31 09:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get drunk and spill the beans, cause if you say anything to him and he does not feel the same way things will never go back to normal trust me. personally I'm against guy relationships, but if you insist, just start to message his shoulders one day and see where it goes from there. If he's not with the program he'll stop you, if not things will progress in a very heated way if you no what I mean. good luck
2006-07-31 09:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by virtuos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is truly your friend, you should be able to discuss your feelings with him openly and honestly, just phrase it in such a way as to not make him feel uncomfortable (if he's not interested) or think you're just joking (you wouldn't want him to think you were just 'setting him up') in the event he's willing to give it a try.
It is not unusual these days for people to want to explore different lifestyles and methods of sexuality and it's good if you can do this with someone you trust and are attracted to as opposed to a stranger.
2006-07-31 09:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does sound like you are gay.Most men will not allow another man to rub his feet unless they are gay also.The best thing to do is tell him how you are feeling and let him know you are confused and you dont know whats going on but dont hide it from him who knows he may feel the same way.
2006-07-31 09:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a sickness. Get some help. Homosexuality is an aberration that should be addressed and cured.
2006-07-31 10:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be urself , if he considers u as "best friend" then i think whatever the outcome is u guys would stay bestfriends, even though if i were him i would just be a friend to u, but that is my own opinion
2006-07-31 09:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by vince 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋