2006-07-31 02:44:06 · 12 answers · asked by RACHEL 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
When everyone around you, but you can see that he is a loser, he is probably a loser! I've had several friends who have become infatuated with people who only bring them down, but still they continue to stay with the in hopes that he will change or things will get better.
When people continue to accept a loser, I believe it is due to low self esteem. You probably don't think you deserve someone good or don't believe that you can do better.
More than likely, you will continue the cycle until you learn to love yourself. I think we show people how we want to be treated by our own actions. Say to yourself....I don't deserve to be treated like this......I deserve to be treated better!
People who love your lift you up.....those who don't really care about you bring you down and attempt to suck the life right out of you!
This doesn't just happen in love relationships.....anyone can be toxic in your life......love shouldn't hurt.
2006-07-31 03:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Free Bird 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good women always love bad men.... I feel it is because of the excitement you feel. You are drawn to the insecurity of not know what will happen next. Have you ever heard of a Man taming the Spirits of a Woman will result in a deeper love? This use to be the theme many years ago. Look at some of the old westerns, and such. This is also true of taming the spirits of a "bad" man. Or at least you hope it will be.
You never defined what the "BAD" is about in your man. Therefore, I am going to conclude that the person is intense because you are drawn to him like a moth is to a light.
High spirited, intense people are often thought of as "bad", but are generally extremely passionate and you hope to redirect that passion onto yourself. Nothing better than a passoinate lover. No matter how "Bad" that person may seem to others.
If this is true in your situation, it will happen. It will take many years, which will often be frustrating, but it will happen as he starts to mellow with age.
2006-07-31 10:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by gejepsen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are too close to the situation and can't tell how much of a loser he is! It's entirely up to you but if he treats you poorly... it will NOT get any better. You women can NOT fix us men. We are who we are and will not change simply by you treating us "better" or whatever.
If he treats you poorly and you stay with him... you deserve everything you get! And don't expect anyone to feel sorry for you. Your friends will eventually get tired of hearing it and spend less time with you... normal human behavior!
In all honesty... if he's a loser and you stay with him, you will most likely become a loser also... if you're not one already!
2006-07-31 09:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by MadMaxx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a number of things:
1. Afraid to be alone?
2. You have a desire to "fix" people so you stay with him thinking that you can change him into what you want?
3. Co-dependent? Need to have the drama in your life and he gives you a means to have it?
You aren't really specific as to what makes him a loser...so its a hard question to accurately answer.
2006-07-31 09:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by lost_irish_75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just because people say it to you doesn’t necessarily make it the right choice. Your are your own unique individual. Your soul and heart drives you to this man for some reason. Go with your gut instinct. If you find that attraction towards him even though he has some negative qualities you have to make your own decisions, just be yourself and life will have a funny way of working out.
2006-08-02 08:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably insecure and afraid of being alone. Six months is not that long, you could still leave him. You don't have that much time invested, and you will get over him. If he's really a loser--you really should try to leave him.
2006-07-31 09:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by TigerLilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should look at the bigger picture. Most people stay in abusive relationships because they feel they deserve to be treated badly or they see something of themselves in the abuser.
Try to find what it is you dislike about yourself and how you allow him to bring those negative feelings out in you. You may be re-enacting a scenario from your past and don't even realize it.
2006-07-31 09:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by 0000000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're a loser, too.
2006-07-31 09:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because other people aren't the ones deciding what you will do.
you decide that. you know they are right. you are making a choice.
you will pay the consequences.
2006-07-31 09:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they see the bad things that you don't because you like bad boys. one day you'll see the light. the sooner the better.
listen to your friends, they love you
2006-07-31 09:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by jamie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋