We argue alot and we both seem to have a point to get across. We have been together over 3 years and none of our arguments have been resolved. I have tried to leave 3 times in this relationship and he had convinced me to stay and deep down I really didn't want to leave either. Then there are times when he wants ME to leave and he changes his mind! My question is why do we stay with one another when we are tired of arguing? Why are we doing this to eachother?
2006-07-31 02:42:51 · 6 answers · asked by moon_girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You guys probably need eachother. Maybe not as boyfriend and girlfriend, but maybe you need each other to pay the bills, or support each other.
But theres a better solution to your problem, try actually sitting down and talking to your boyfriend once and argument comes up. When things start getting heated and start to the yelling a usually just walk away from it, sit there...calm yourself down...LOWER YOUR VOICES and ask him whats making him so upset? Then LISTEN to him. After he tells you what bothers him, then you tell him what bothers you, he has to understand that he in return will LISTEN. Then once you both know what wrong, COMPROMISE the problem. Say you will do XYZ if he does XYZ. And then you both must TRUST eachother to actually stick with your plan.
Never leave an arguement unsolved, it will just keep popping up every other time your guys argue. Listening, Trust, and Compromise make up a huge portion of keeping a relationship healthy. If you guys can not work on that, then you need to break up, and no matter whats holding you back, its wont be worth sticking around. Good Luck :o)
2006-07-31 02:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonstar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its called love.
I am in a similar situation and when i think back to the arguments,then i think about how stupid it really is.
I left my boyfriend before over a stupid argument and at the end we got back together,because deep down i never wanted to leave him and because i wouldnt want to lose him.
Do you think that you will ever get another boyfriend that is similar to him and that feels the same way about you,like he does?
2006-07-31 09:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by fazlin d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason a woman stays with an abusive husband. He has degraded you to the point you do not think you can do anything right without him.
2006-07-31 09:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the answers i have read are partly right so you have to decide if this is how you want your future to be. Think about the good times and the bad times and work out what you want for yourself.
2006-07-31 09:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by jewel_o_th_night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arguing is a healthy part of any relation what u must be afraid of is that if u don’t argue then its a reason to wonder why ur still together
2006-07-31 09:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by jesica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CO-DEPENDENCY
2006-07-31 09:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋