How many people here are getting really tired of this and possibly offended?Please read details!?

Question

Maybe I am super sensitive because I have mixed grandchildren and alot of black friends,but who is getting sick of the N word even if people are saying "What up N_ _ _ A?I need a serious answer because I am not black and I find it offensive.Am I being to sensitive?

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Answer 1

No. I'm black and feel that it neither fashionable or cool to use such a derrogatory term.

Young people may try to say it doesn't have the say meaning it used to, but too many people gave their lives for us not to be called that awful word.

My son tried to dress the wor up as an acronym w/ positive connotations. That's a bunch of bull...
No matter how you dress a dead fish it still stinks.

Answer 2

I used to use the word alot or maybe too much, but now I personally don't use the word. It gives u a bad first impression and puts a bad label on u. Even if u really don't care what people think, ur still affected in the long run. I don't choose not to use the word to better myself but to better the ones around me, the ones that look up to me.
I've learned that it's more of a social thing, If I'm having a conversation with a fellow African American and i don't use the N word, then it would most likely be tossed aside for the remainder of the conversation. If used, the other guy will get an automatic message and assumption of what I'm all about.

blood has been spilled and people have died over the use of this word, so if u don't know the history behind it, then u really shouldn't be using it. I hear it every day, but people will always be people, they have their own opinions and personalities.

It all starts at home,..

Answer 3

The word ******* is definitely a word that can spark uneasiness, especially if said around non-black individuals.

The Black culture, as you probably know, uses this N word merely in the same way "dude" or "man" is used by mainstream culture. Of course, it's probably not the best word to say, but in the inner city and areas inhabited by predominantly black individuals, this word is accepted.

Now, what I have a hard time with is the white kids that try to dress like they're black (i.e. hip/hop) and they'll be singing a rap song where the N word is present and they'll actually say the word! Now that's like the dumbest thing a person could do.

I know it's a double standard but Black people pretty much own that word nowadays. It no longer means same as it did back in the Jim Crow era but it still can definitely be used offensively depending on the situation.

The best thing you can do is to not let that word bother you so much. Your oversensitivity to the N word will only draw more attention to the negative definition it had back generations ago.

In 2006, the N word is losing a lot of its bite. In a few generations, that word won't mean much of anything.

Answer 4

Everybody has a right to their opinion. You may be over-reacting just a little bit though. Not that I understand what makes it better by putting the "A" on the end, but I do understand that they will say it regardless. To them it is more a term of endearment, so to speak. It's means the same as it does when a white boy walks up to his friend and says, "Hey dude, what's up?" I don't think it's really anything to be offended over. My boyfriend is black and I have no problem with it. I hear it constantly. And if him and I get married and have kids (which is very likely), I doubt that even then it would offend me. It's just another one of those slang words. Ghetto talk. And more than likely, your grandkids will grow up with that word being a part of their speech as well. If they aren't offended by it, why should you be?

Answer 5

People have different views on using derogatory names like that, especially that particular word. I also have black friends, and I've asked them about their feelings on that. Some of them have said that they like to use it because the more you use a word, especially a derogotory one like that, it takes away its meaning. If you think about it, it's true. how many girls out there call their friends whore's, sluts and bit**es? Those are all negitive terms, but they more they use it to each other, it loses its meaning. But if a male was to use one of those names to a girl, it would be extremely offensive. The same way the black community uses that word to each other and it's acceptible, but yet if a white person was to refer to a black person by using the "N" word, it would be beyond unacceptable. It's almost impossible to teach children what words are acceptable and which ones are inappropriate if there is not a united opinion across all races. I personally, would never use that word because of its origin, and find it slightly confusing when black people use it to each other. I think it changes its meaning, depending on who said it. For some black people, it's a name of unity in a sense, it's a name that they use to each other that is strictly theirs, but it is not one for anybody other than a black person to say. I think it's one of those issues that will never get resolved. I understand the idea behind the more you use a word the more it loses its meaning, but I still don't think that it should be acceptable to say.

Answer 6

Regardless of what u may think, or how it may "look" it's a term of endearment when growing up "in da hood".... till this day between myself and my old clique we call each other niga.

It's the word ending in an R that is considered offensive.

And no it doesn't reflect your education level, it reflects where your from or where you may have been from at one point in your life. I don't think it's sooooooooooo hard to understand maybe if you could try being less judgemental against the ppl who decided that their progess in life was to stop and to never go past hip hop. It doesn't bother me, I wear shoes these days but the kids I used to know still wear their boots. SOOO???? that could have been me but I didn't want it tho. He made his choice and I made mine. Respect that.

It's slang and it's lingo. I know some phukazz crackerz who use the term "afro-can american" and their is nothing decent in how it's implied, in fact for the most part it's ridicule for the term, he might as well used the ***-R word .

Listen and watch how a term is implied then realize what it is.

it dont matter if u dont want to cuz nigaz flippn da word aint gonna sweat u. They know between them what they sayin, and your just some1 on the train not minding your bizniz.

Capiche?

Answer 7

Girl....You NEED to get your email up and running & then contact me thru the "Contact" option...This HATER is attacking my and everybody else's questions...she BETTER NOT BE REFERRING TO YOU HERE! I can't talk more about this so get your email going! Then I'll give u my email....here is one of her responses.

What I hate
White people who have an identity crisis.
Fat people who dress skimpy.
When I get on a bus and everyone looks at me cuz I am the only whitey on the bus.
Reverse racism ( come to my city! The whites are not racist in this town!Guess who is though....)
The idiot w/ the indian name who has been answering questions here all night!
People who talk trash about you thinking you don't understand their language. Guess what? I understand!!
Ugly dogs.
People who talk like they are in da ghetto yo motha fukaz.
Beggars.
Asking 4 money to buy food but it is really 4 booze/crack.
Ppl who rat on shoplifters.
Ppl who are snotty and spoiled.
Ppl that act like they know everything.
Ppl that think they know what it is like to suffer in life yet they are from the suburbs and have never seen a soup kitchen or have gone hungry for a night or have to buy all their clothes from the goodwill or get used clothes from a church.
Ppl who are spoiled.
Ppl who hate everything like I do!!!!

I am not racist I hate EVERYBODY equally!!!!!


Ok...this is me again :)
And to answer your question...I see both whites and blacks saying that kind of stuff...A serious answer from me would be...you know how you can tell if it is coming across racially or not? (It better not have the letters ER at the end) That's what I go by...for example...I am ADDICTED to the Dave Chappelle show...they say it a lot there (only ending in GA)....all races...but if people say it with disrespect....oooohhh girl, u are not being oversensitive at all...
Now what is up with the racist above me....contact me soon! ;)

Answer 8

No, you're not being sensitive, those numb skulls are being insensitive.
People are so shallow nowadays that they don't know or care what they say.
It's all about ego and wanting to be part of the "in" crowd.
They feel that if they don't talk like that they will be left out and look like fools, not knowing that they already look like that because of their limited vocabulary and the unwillingness to educate themselves.

Their lives adapt to every whim and novelty of society.
Their personalities change direction like reeds in the wind.
Until they start looking into themselves, they will never improve their character.

Answer 9

No you are not being too sensitive. It is within your rights to not have to hear words or phrases that are offensive to you. However, it is also within the rights of other people to be able to freely express themselves. I also find this particular word offensive and I correct anyone in MY house that it is not an appropriate word. If they continue to use offensive language, I ask them to leave and they are not invited back. If I am in a public situation where people are using discriminatory lanuage (to anyone, not just african american's) I remove myself from the situation and in the future avoid social situations with those people. I refuse to allow people who use ignorant hateful and derogatory remarks to be part of my life. This has caused me some inconvienience but the reduction of stress is worth it to me. For example, this weekend my uncle and his son, my cousin celebrated their birthdays with a large party I was invited to. I politely refused the invitation because my uncle is a flat out bigot and I don't like to be in the same environment as him. I know that he will make some type of racial statement that I will find offensive and impossible not to respond negatively to. So rather than me arguing with him about his lack of awareness and compassion for others, I simply do not put myself in situations where I know he will be. If I find myself "stuck" in a social environment with people who continue to make derogatory racial statements I will walk home, call a cab, go outside till my ride is ready to leave, whatever, I just know I can't not say something about it, so rather than starting a fight about it, I go away. When my uncle asks why I am not at his birthday party, I tell him with honesty, that I don't appreciate his lack of understanding how offensive I find his racial statements. If he doesn't care to make the environment one in which I would be comfortable, then he doesn't really want me there anyway.

Answer 10

I am extremely offeded by that word. The original meaning of that word meant illiterate, outcast, ignorant, or good for nothing. I take offense on that word no matter how it is used. That was one of my worst pet peeves from my exhusband. He thought it was okay to use, and so did his family and friends. My boys, on the other hand, will never be able to use it no matter if they are mixed.