I came home one day unexpected and discovered my husband has been having cybersex with not one woman but 3! Is this considered cheating? He says no. I say yes! And the more I asked the more lies I discovered. Bottom line is he'd been at it for over a month maybe more.
2006-07-31 02:25:53 · 43 answers · asked by nana2kristin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is cheating and this is coming from a man. He says its not b/c he knows he is in the wrong. He should not be talking to other women like that, only you. Now if he was just talking to them then no it is not cheating. He really shouldnt even been talking to another woman on the computer but thats me. Dont let him get by with this. Talk to him and see what is going on. Good luck with this one
2006-07-31 02:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Probably longer. I had the same problem myself and allways told myself that it was OK because it was not with a live person. I have understood a whole new meaning of cheating after I caught my wife with someone else after meeting him on the web. (We are trying to work it out) The true meaning of cheating is "If an activity, thought or action takes something AWAY from the marriage". I have learned this the hard way and have regreted my actions and am trying to rectify. I have a long way to go for both of us to earn back trust.
Hope this helps. Mans view
2006-07-31 02:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Terry B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately many a marraige ended because of cyber sex, its worse than strip clubs because its more of a mental and emotional sexual thing going on, it goes beyond just fantasizing about other women while doing it but when they are cybering they are truly mentally doing it, so since the emotional and mental aspects of sex are an important part to it it can be considered dangerous and cheating.....be careful, watch for signs that this goes further.....It has to start somewhere.....
2006-07-31 02:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by lost&confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a form of cheating. Hes sharing something intimate with someone else. Its Emotional abuse as well. Id talk to him and see if there is something missing from your relationship. Find out why he does it. Is it a straight sex thing ....the excitment...the safety from disease? Lack of intamacy at home? Id want to know if hes having actual affairs in real life. You two may need to seek counseling to work through this. Good Luck to you both.
2006-07-31 02:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Coyote 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is..any form of intimacy, especially sexual, is a violation against your wedding vows and should be addressed immediately before it gets out of hand.
My fiance used to look at porn daily until I put my foot down and told him to stop. He hasn't looked at it since (i know how to tell).
If you husband sees how this has upset you, he will more than likely nip this is the bud as opposed to continuing and threatening your marriage.
BTW - I wouldn't be too worried about cyber, though. Many people have cybered and it's just a way of letting go of sexual inhibitions. Maybe you can benefit from this.
Good luck.
2006-07-31 02:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbating to porn is distinctive with the aid of fact it is not interactive. it is not something you're doing *with* yet another man or woman; it is something you're doing via your self. this is not extra cheating than thinking a pair of fantasy on an identical time as having intercourse. in case you have telephone intercourse or cyber intercourse, you're interacting with yet another man or woman, and that's hence cheating. In answer to somebody above me, via the way, i do no longer recommendations in any respect that my spouse each now and then looks at porn (bare adult adult males) whilst i'm no longer there. Porn isn't cheating for me, and it is not cheating whilst she does it the two.
2016-11-03 09:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by winstanley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cheating if you feel it's cheating, so yes. (although I don't know if it could be considered infidelity for the purposes of a prenup, you'll have to ask a lawyer about that one)
He should respect your wishes and stop if it makes you feel uncomfortable, imo. If the two of you sit down and you express to him how strongly you feel about it and why you feel the way you do, hopefully you can come to an understanding.
2006-07-31 02:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by 006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that is considered intimate with someone else is cheating in my book. Yes cybersex is cheating.
2006-07-31 02:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is if you feel that it is...But to be fair, up until he was "caught" he didn't know that you felt that way...I would have a serious non-confrontational discussion about it...tell him how you feel and give him another chance...Since there was no actual touching involved and he's probably never met these women, in person or even online, before. If you're OK with porn and not cyber, than encourage him to go back to porn...he doesn't own porn? yes. he does.
2006-07-31 02:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by jillymack06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its cheating. Its emotional abuse to you too. Not a great guy. Sorry but you should either go to counseling or get out. What else is he doing that he has not told you about? If your finding more lies I'm sure it just gets worse the cyber sex. Please save your sanity and get out.
2006-07-31 02:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋