My 11 yr old daughter is chatting to a 14yr old boy - what would you do?

Answer 1

You are asking for trouble if you let it go on. Talk to the boy and her! Be honest and tell them no more...the age does matter in this case!

Answer 2

he's not 14, he's 22. or older. your 11 yr old shouldn't be chatting on the net at all. AT ALL. she is way too young and naive to think that this could not be a harmful situation. remove computer rights from her, and if she does go on, be there when she is on the thing. There are also parental control programs in which you can install that allows you to see who she is talking to and why. No one is 14 on the net. Haven't you seen Dateline NBC's to catch a predator? the net is not a babysitter. Stop using it as one

Answer 3

First of all, be happy she told you about who it is she is communicating with. That's wonderful!
As long as you are comfortable with who this boy is and feel he is safe, then it should be no problem. Use him as a topic to talk about in conversation and you will get the chance to talk with her about what they discuss, and learn more about him too. This way you can keep a finger on the pulse of things and continue to monitor the situation.
If the boy was older..say 16 or 17, I'd be a bit worried as there is a huge maturity difference. But at 11, she is about as mature as he is, so for now...keep an eye on it and let her know you trust her, even if you don't trust him. :)

Answer 4

Being friends is OK, but think about the age difference. She's 11 and he's 14. It may only be a three year age difference, but mentally, physically, and emotionally, that is a big difference. Just pay very close attention to what she is doing and to what she is chatting with this boy about.

Answer 5

I would setup an keylogger to see what they are talking about.
Its not a bad thing to do because its our/your responsibility to see that the kid doesn't go in a wrong path. If you think she is doing something wrong after seeing what they are chatting, then you can decide what to do.

Basically a keylogger is a software which will record all typing done on the system.
I hope you are ok with my idea.

here is a tool to do that:
http://www.netbus.org/sPro-chat-keylogger.html
try it and if that doesnt work, let me know.

Answer 6

why are you allowing an 11 yr old to CHAT? My kids only talk to family on here that is the rule... I think you might need to put a holster on the chatting and limit her time on the computer.... dear lordy

Answer 7

I dont see anything wrong in this. He is only 14 not 24 or more. Just let them chat and try to make your daughter talk to you about him. Taking a friendly approach should help!

Answer 8

Does she know the boy? If she does it may be ok, if she doesn't it may not even be a 14 year old boy. Make her aware that things aren't always what they seem on the internet, I would definitely not encourage her chatting to strangers online.

Answer 9

First of all she is too young. You are the parent take charge. Tell her she is not allowed to talk to boys yet. I'm sure she'll probably still do it, but at least she knows where you stand on the issue. If she disobeys, then she must grounded. No phone, No computer, etc.

Answer 10

don't worry to much, it's better than a 25 year old hitting on a 17 year old girl at some meeting organised by the school. well atleast you know who she is chatting with, don't worry 3 years ain't that bad.

Answer 11

monitor it! she is 11, she shouldn't be allowed unsupervised internet activity anyways. the internet is a scary place full of bad people, and you've got no real reason to believe that this person is really a 14 yr old boy. if they really want to be friends, there is no reason that you shouldn't get to know this person also (as well as his parents).