I need help. I become very angry and snap at people, at home and at work. My brother has the same problem. We have been called into HR, a few times, about snapping at in our workplaces. Then I then feel guilty for days about some of things I said that can never be taken back. Especially to my husband, who has never once yelled at me or been angry in our 4 years of marriage. He has let me scream and yell at me and forgives me, loves me, and says he understand. But how can I forgive myself? And what is making me so angry?
2006-07-31 02:14:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like issues in the home from the past. You and your brother need spiritual counseling. Prayer is the only cure.
2006-07-31 02:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life ,it can make you angry as hell but we must learn that we cant take this out on everyone !!!! Talk to a counselor or someone you can vent out to!!! You will be surprised at so many things that has happened over the course of your life that has built up inside you and once you pinpoint it and find out exactly what it is ,you will be able to release it and let it go ,You and your brother will be just fine!
2006-07-31 02:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look sweetie,sit and analyse.
do some exercises physical n written both,write down those 10 things that make you angry and the reason behind it.make a concious effort next when such a thing happens and tell yourself you are not angry,see you have to make an effort your self...
keep yourself cool,join yoga,medidate......close your eyes or just get away from the place when u think you are just about to scream or yell!!
take your husbands help,he been so supportive,m sure he'll have more ideas for you....show him your interest in improving!!
2006-07-31 02:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want it to end seek professional Counselling. But don't feel bad about it, you're not crazy or anything, it's probabaly some little thing from when you (and your brother) were little and haven't forgiven.
You can find out what's making you angry, you can get over it.
Once you do that, you can forgive yourself
2006-07-31 02:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is due to past unresolved issues. there maybe a child hood thing going on. things in the work place may trigger these emotions and make you burst out. you may feel. undermined, wrong,taken for granted. not valued ect. sometime thing reminds of us past issue and we become angered. My suggestion. Is this
1) Sit down when you get angry and thing where is it coming from? how do i feel about this situation? does this remind of me of a similar situation i went through where i felt really bad? how did i handle it before? How can i handle this? is it really worth me getting so upset. ? Let me know you can email me personally OK.. Much Love.
2006-07-31 02:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by Zolveria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something you need to figure out. Try going to anger management classes or take some sort class for stress relief, maybe yoga or pilates. Also try to think before you act out harshly. You need to understand the reasons behind your anger before you can forgive yourself for your actions, see a therapist. You are lucky you have such a patient, understanding husband. Talk to him maybe he can help. Once you figure out your reasons behind it and how to control it, it should be easy to forgive yourself. Remember no one is perfect, just learn from these experiences to try to improve your situation.
2006-07-31 02:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by sugermagnolia26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just really stressed out. You need to take some time to yourself and relax. Think before you speak. Maybe you need to have someone to talk to about why you are so angry. There is no sense beating yourself up over it, you just need to do something about it.
2006-07-31 02:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have unresolved issues from your childhood or past relationships,either way you need to talk to someone about these issues,when you deal with them head on you will see your anger start to disappear.Good luck God bless:O)
2006-07-31 03:00:36 · answer #8 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek professional help, this is a family rooted issue shared by you and your brother...physco therapy can uncover what it is that brings such anger out and give you some tools to stop these outburst from re-occurring..good luck.
2006-07-31 02:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anger management.
2006-07-31 02:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋