2006-07-31 02:10:33 · 47 answers · asked by jayjagjjj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you have any dignity or self respect you would say hell no.
2006-07-31 02:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~Jeni~*~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off, u must consider most of the ppll that straight give a "leave him" answer probably are 35 and live with their parents....
If he didnt love you he wouldnt be asking you for permision, that means he respects you and loves you. I know because I have been on a position where I love a woman with all my heart and gave her everything and I asked her for a 3 some but she didnt want to. Jus tbecuase I asked doesnt mean i didnt love her. YOu have to be able ot make a difference between your husband having feelings for someone else, which then definately is cheating even without having sex, jsut by holding hands, and then there is the sex life factor. For some doing it missionary in bed for the rest of their lives will do, others need more spice or are just curious. Think of how you feel and if you are willing, will both be mature and secure enough to not let your marriage collide? Its a big decision that needs thought and maturity form both, think about it and if any of you have doubts dont do it, otherwise just have new experiences on yoru sex life which has nothign to do with the lov ehe has for you....
2006-07-31 03:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting into some pretty risky waters here. Although there are those times when bringing other parties into the bedroom can lead to untold loads of fun, for the most part it usually fails miserably. There are probably very few young couples who don't think of this, usually early in the relationship. It usually ends in disaster for the marriage. No matter how much both people swear they can handle it, jealousy almost always rears it's ugly head on someones part, and the party's over. If it's something you are both hot to try then give it a go but be careful, however, if this desire is only on one persons side and either of you really doesn't like the idea, then you probably should not try it.
2006-07-31 02:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by mark o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You marry this guy and he wants to sleep with your friends. That is a no. You dont know what kindof diseases your friends carry. I would break off friendship with the girls and I would corner my husband and say no. Let him know how you feel and If he dont have any integrity or honor in your marriage hes not worth having around. A marriage is about loving, respect, honor, and honesty. You know when they say 2 people become one soul. They never said 7 people and 1 soul did they. If you are not going to a good church than maybe you need to seek one. Sometimes your friends could not be the best of friends. If hes already asking to have sex with them its already been in his mind and theirs that means he has either already done it or hes already talked to them about it and waiting for your ok. My man is my man and I dont want some b**ch** to show my man a good time. Im the woman in the house and If he cant be a man than he is a boy. When a boy grows older he puts the childish things away and becomes a man. If he cant own up to the marriage hes not being a husband hes being boy. You want a man not a boy. Good luck** thats all I can say.
2006-07-31 02:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by girl176a1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you're only into one-to-one relationship. That's what marriage is about. You may not be able to cope with the whole situation & consquences. He's more than happy to bonk your friends as men can have sex without emotions/feelings. But women have whole lot of emotions/feelings that's better not be toyed with, especially emotions/feelings of yours & your 2 friends. Where's the dignity & respect? He'll make repeated requests from you and your friends and your friends' friends.
Yes, if you're okay with a one-to-many, or many-to-many relationship, i.e. "open marriage" where both of you are very sexually adventurous and don't mind each other bonking others. If he wants your 2 friends, you ask for his 2 friends... See what's his reaction...
From the way you word your question, you seem to be in a dilemma. I strongly suggest you will say "No". If he truly loves you, he won't even think or dare to hurt you. He should feel sorry for making this irresponsible request out of your great love for him. It is not right of him to have a moment of pleasure out of his fantasy at the misery/agony of yours.
Both of you can be faithful & adventurous in your sexual life at the same time. Spice it up. And i think he won't have to entertain such thoughts in future.
2006-07-31 02:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel telling your friend, "um, John wants to make love to you, can you spend the night tonight?" No. Don't do it. How would you like to see him being passionate and intimate with another woman? You would never be able to get that image out of your head. It is nice to know that you are all your husband wants and needs, what he is doing is wanting to indulge in a fantasy. Tell him to keep it just that, a fantasy.
2006-07-31 03:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, this could be a very ugly situation.
You could let him and let me tell you it won't end there with the two of them. He could want it again and again. And chances are he is going to do it w/out your knowledge after you do give permission.
How do you feel about it? My guess is that you are apprehensive about it if you are online asking. I don't think you should go down this path. If you feel like experimenting with your sex life get it out of your safety zone. You and your friends will never look at each other the same.
2006-07-31 02:14:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!!!!!! Look, if you husband still wanted to be with other women then he shouldn't have married you. That is all there is to it. You guys should seek marriage counseling because there is a serious underlying problem when a person wants to go outside of the relationship for sex. I hate that you are having to go through this. You will be in my prayers. God loves you!
2006-07-31 02:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by patrice_kell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some couples do stuff like that to spice up their sex lives, but if you feel uncomfortable about it, as you obviously do, saying yes will just kill your self esteem, and you'll end up regretting it.
Asking shows you'd be willing to consider experimenting, but not yet. Even if it was alright with you for him to sleep around, what would your friends think? If they're up for it, you have to question just what sort of friends they are.
2006-07-31 02:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by kamorth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ... fantasies are meant to stay fantasies. Once you bring them into reality it will disrupt your relationship. I know this from experience. My marriage of ten years ended because i allowed my ex-husband to indulge his fantasies. It brought about feelings of distrust, dishonesty, and many other issues. Don't do it, rent a porno or do something ****** to each other, but don't involve other people in your sex life.
2006-07-31 02:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by sugermagnolia26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you allow him he wont stop. If he really loved you he would respect you, he committed to you if he cant do this then your marriage is based on a lie. You do not deserve to be treated this way. If you allow this to happen you will never forgive yourself and there will be no trust in your marriage.
2006-07-31 02:18:42 · answer #11 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋