Hi friends...
Your marriage is fixed with one girl.
That girl is loving another boy for 4 years.
That boy and girl can't tell about their love to their parents before for some family problem.
The girl's parents convinced her to marry you.
The girl is still loving that boy, and can't against her parents also...
That boy tried to get permission from the girl's parents, but they are telling that all the preparation is going on, now what to do..?
Now, that boy reached you, he is explaining everything and requesting your help...
Now, what will you do?
Will you help that lovers?
Please take this as your own, and give me your answer...
PS: Consider the Indian / Tamil culture also...
2006-07-31 01:00:02 · 16 answers · asked by My_Answers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no it will be like a compromise. don't compromise when getting married it is a question of a lifetime, rather break it though it is not easy but will not hamper any one as the world has moved on and people tend to forget things my friend
2006-07-31 01:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by Explorer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...this is a hard one. Usually parents have the right to chose the man their daughter will marry. There are many cases when girls fall in love with another boy than the one the parents have chosen for her. The world has changed. We have a modern thinking right now and if you really love that girl, I think you should support her and make her parents understand that you can't stand between two people who love each other so much. Just try to be sure that he can truly make her happy, else...it's better for her to stay with you.
2006-07-31 01:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by mickurahul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, how much do you love her, if any??
Marriages are arranged YES, BUT you know she doesn't love you & he has even approached you for help. Consider why the parent won't accept him for her?? It's a tough situation but she loves him, and if you go ahead & marry her, then it will take a long time for her to fall in love with you, even if you do everything you possibly can for her.
I would firstly consider every option possible & write it down on paper. Think about yourself, then her, & him. You are a boy & it won't look bad on you if you choose not to marry her, they'll find you another bride BUT for the girl if word gets out that she didn't want to marry you then she is looked down upon. i say help the guy out. Go ahead & be the bigger person. Have a sit down with the parents & him & tell the parents all the good qualities he has & how he will really make their daughter happy. It's ultimately up to you right now. If you choose to help him out & the parents accept think about how it will help you out when they search for another bride for you, if she learns about how you helped them out she will be impressed & know how you believe that LOVE plays a big part in life.
GOOD LUCK in whatever way you choose.
2006-07-31 01:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly you're a lost soul. The reason your man has run away, has little to do with your different religions. He sees your desperation and he's scared of you - no one wants to take care of someone who is so troubled. That is not someone you want to raise your children. You need to work on yourself, be solid in your own beliefs - not change them just for a man's love. You may not be ready for a relationship, since your life is not stable at this time. I took a year off from when I was sick and after my mother died, because I was too emotional and depressed to share my life with a man. Relationships take work, and I wouldn't be able to offer a man any time, if he was going to be the only one able to give. Once you are content with your own life, you will meet someone else. Its not going to be this man. It will be a man that truly adores you, regardless of religion - although you should be with someone with your same beliefs - whatever you finally settle on. You need to decide what religion you are first before getting involved again. It will matter in the long run. Be well, and go seek a counselor, to get over your grief and depression, before getting another man.
2016-03-27 08:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, i'm an indian girl and i understand your situation and i think that you should not agree to marry this girl. Firstly she doesnt love you, now what kind of a marriage would that be. and secondly what kind of a girl is she to put you in such a tough position, i think that is being insensitive because you have enough to deal with as is. I know that you are afraid of telling your family how youy feel because i feel the absolute same way, but in the long run it will be to your benefit, you dont need this type of life, you need someone who will love and cherish you not put you on the spot. my parents are also like that and i cant stand up to them and now i have a miserable life, dont be like me stand up for yourself. good luck and i hope things work for you. and also make your family aware of her postion in this or else you will end up looking like the bad one, its the last thing you need.
2006-07-31 01:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by rascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEE, love is nothing , but a feeling of possesiveness and one want to keep it for ever , be practical and obey elders , tyeh can not be your enemy , time will heal everything on this earth , believe in your own strength and follow and consider their reputation in the society .
Yes , I do agree with you if you love some one try to be with the same for ever , but both of you had no courage to inform elders , and now it is too late , accept the reality & if its true love blieve in giving and praying for the happiness of your so called love .
2006-07-31 01:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you prevent her from marrying her lover then she'll cheat on you after marriage and make you wear bull horns. It is best, therefore, to let her pi$$-off and start looking for a decent girl who loves you truly.
2006-07-31 01:09:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no, have a pride to refuse that marriage, have a compassion to help those lovers to marry each others, then get your graces and peace of mind, God will give u the one u was dreaming about soon.
2006-07-31 01:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by TG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm not a guy,butif that ever happened i would never marry her .she'll be forever pining 4 that other boy and i'd be miserable for the rest of my life.for your sake and hers :don't do it.you'll riun each other,eventually.
2006-07-31 01:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by peaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, if she doesn't love you she'll be miserable. And it will only get worse the longer you're married
2006-07-31 01:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by wudbiser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋