........if you feel that is so annoying and you r so tired of it ,but she is your friend . yeah at first i want to help but its like nothing can fix her problems , and it's like only thing in her head is this kind of stuff. i don't want her to feel like i don't care about her problems.anyway out?
p.s am i a bad friend?
2006-07-31 00:51:06 · 8 answers · asked by LANNA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would find a way to divert the topic of conversation. Ask her how things are at work, school, or family. What is she doing fun and interesting?
Explain to her gently or do some thing which will give her the hint that you r feeling bored. I have just passed through this!
See my quest that i asked on the net:
How do you tell a person that you feel bored talking with her all time about her boyfriends, etc...??
Here are some answers that i got:
it's difficult because you understand that they need advice but it does get pretty irritating for a while and you don't want to hurt her feelings and be mean to her and want her to stop talking you all together so I suggest just trying to change the subject and to keep in control of the conversation for a while...I'm pretty sure eventually she'll get the hint even without you telling her.
man has created words to communicate darling...use them. i know its irritating cos some people are so self centered but u need to tell them that there are other people arouond them too! so tell her directly (but softly)!
Say "I get bored talking about your boyfriends all the time."
I don't know about anybody else, but it peeves me off (aka hurts) if someone considered a friend won't tell me how they feel if something is bothering them. Just say it like it is already! If we get through it, super, maybe we'll be better friends... if we don't, we weren't very good friends to start with!
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Okay i hope that it will help you! Good luck!
p.s: hope that it didn't mind anybody from whom i took the answers! It was just to help!
And yes no remove thta thought from your mind, u r a good friend, just a bit bored, that's all! And believe me i understand you! U can e-mail me if u want some advice. I'm Free to answer you.
2006-07-31 01:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Nicegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you asked for answer to this problem, you confirmed that you are a great friend. It's very hard to decide what to do. If you tell her that it irritates you, she'll be pissed and cross at you. If you don't tell anything she won't stop talking about her love problems. You know best what kind of person she is and will she accept the truth or not. But on the other hand, if you decide not to tell her you must be aware that you'll soon explode, and than you'll tell her much worse things than you think and feel. If you however don't want to tell her, try talking about your love problems all the time, or something that you care. Keep talking about that all the time, and see if she's going to listen to you and try to help you as you do. If she doesn't she's not a good friend. Then would be the perfect moment to tell her the truth. But still whatever you advice her on, she will deny that and say that you are stupid, it's not that simple, her life is so complicated. Grrrr! Now I got irritated. Don't worry, you're a great friend, and if she continues acting like SHE is the center of the universe, leave her. She doesn't deserve you.
2006-07-31 01:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jovan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Believe me! there's nothing wrong with that! But I think you should have a talk with your friend , tell her you care about her and you don't want to hurt her But you can't stand the fact that she's always complaining a bout love ..be honest at first she may get mad and feel hurt b/c nobody want to hear that but if she's a good friend she's going to appreciate your words and maybe try to change and not focus and bad experiences in love anymore..
good Luck!
2006-07-31 00:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by CAJA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a bad friend, you may just not be the friend she needs at those moments. Not a damn thing wrong with that. You can't make your self pretend to care. You need to be your self.
Besides, the more it seems that you do care, and try to help her, you are adding fuel to the fire. Sounds to me she likes the attention, and it won't stop unless you stop. She's a drama queen, and you probably don't need that...Good Luck!
2006-07-31 00:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
1st of all u r a gr8 friend n remove the thought that u r bad outta ur mind
n as far as ur friend is concerned try to get a good guy that will stay 4 a long time with her,
if you notice that it gets broken again , the prob is with your friend ,
try to talk to her indirectly,
i think that could help
2006-07-31 00:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Worst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yr not a bad friend and it would help u a lot if u realized that she's a love addict. if she's only talking about her love problemas it's natural to make u feel bored and have nthg to say anymore. u could tell her u know..that it tires u and that yr out of advices. i think that even if she gets mad, she'll realize at the end that yr right.
2006-07-31 00:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by disco ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has a gay weigh down on you because of the fact he tries to thieve all your females to get your interest he desperately needs. So supply him a dozen roses and proclaim your love for him and watch him run away. Plan B (If and provided that gay hen isnt your subject) tell the girl that "your asshole appropriate chum" is cockblocking you and which you extremely like her. she would be able to do the paintings from there ^^
2016-12-11 03:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r not a bad friend. u just don't know what to do. try to talk to her. sit her somewhere for five minutes and try to get her to let all her feelings out. if she won't, take her out somewhere like the mall or a theme park or a restarant and try to have fun with her.
2006-07-31 01:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋