2006-07-31 00:33:20 · 18 answers · asked by sorinam_att 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well firstly u need to look back and see if u had caused it normally happens wen a man doesnt give dat attention he use to 5 years ago dat gets the women thinking dat shes not worth any thing to him any more which makes her go out looking for someone whos gonna treat her like new again so maybe u sud try new things like if u dont normally take her out for dinner then do it buy her flowers let her know shes beautifull and let her know how much she means to u...
hang in there...
2006-07-31 00:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by jenn 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Well that's just it.. I hate to generalize but as a man.. we dont always see things for what they are. We get so busy with the providing part or thinking we have to do certain things to make our mate happy. From my experience, women will always drop hints or voice the problem. As crazy as it sounds, they dont always want the solution but the acknowledgement that you heard them.
As much as we would like to believe that there are never any signs.. they are there.. try and think about what your arguements have been about.. Are you on the road often? Do you work crazy hours? Do you have kids? Is she constantly picking up after everyone? Dude.. the list could be countless.
Ten years is a significant investment.. I think Id take a long hard look at the way things have been for say the last two years. Try to look at it from an outsiders point of view... be objective.
Im not pointing one party is less guilty than the other. There are two sides to every story.
2006-07-31 00:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by trumpitqwik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a reason. You just may not know what it is. And it doesnt' mean it's a GOOD reason either. Sometimes the peaceful marriages are the ones with the most problems......it usually means one person is sucking up all the bad feelings they have and not voicing the changes they want. Usually a passive person gets fed up and blows up in some way without ever telling their spouse. OR.......sometimes it's the person who is TRYING to get their spouse to talk about their relationship and never succeeds that winds up feeling frustrated and being the betrayer. When their spouse spends 10 years trying to not make waves, the other person feels like their married to a robot with no emotion and gets fed up.
2006-07-31 00:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question! They end up feeling like they're not as beautiful, or have someone (someone looking to get some) tell them things they haven't heard in a while like, you're so good looking, I love your smile, make them laugh, etc. Something is renewed in them and they stray. Men do the same thing more often although it is becoming just as common for women. Men do it to see if they still got it. If she has done the unthinkable, my suggestion, if you're are a very strong person, her as well, work things out. If this just won't happen, break up. It'll never be the same after her cheating, I promise.
2006-07-31 00:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by ndvsne1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of communication in the marriage from both sides. You can go to marriage counseling and get over the betrayal or you can get a divorce. You have to make those decisions in time. If you are always going to be unhappy and hold grudges, then you will always be miserable.
2006-07-31 00:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
strange how many of these answers puts the fault in your lap, if she wanted something different the coward should have gotten a divorce, then had her affairs. She was being very selfish. No one gets all they want all the time in a marriage, if the marriage means anything, you work on it, not drop your panties and lay on your back for someone else.
2006-07-31 00:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because she was lacking something meaningful. She seems the quiet type and not to make a song and dance about an issue. However, deep, down inside a storm was brewing.
You need to discover what it was she was void of my friend.
Love and joy
Beth
2006-07-31 00:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's usually after 7 years. Yup, the 7 year itch.
At least 50% of women have extra-marital sex.
2006-07-31 00:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Richard B-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it really peaceful? Did you show affection? Did you give her what she really needed? Was she dropping hints of wanting more and you did not see them? Was this the first time she wondered or is it just the first time you know about?
All of these are serious things to consider.
Best of luck!
2006-07-31 00:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as "no particular reason"...u must have been in the dark , in ur marriage , all these years....were there no signs of slight discontent, of your preferences over hers, r u both working...no details so hard to advise....if u had been a listening partner (listen with the heart) no divorce needed....women are sensitive soul...unless she's a tart????
2006-07-31 00:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by middriff77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋