I have been best mates with this guy for 6 years.18 months ago me and my mate got close and since then have been sleeping together. I made the fatal mistake of falling in love with him, i told him how I felt and he responded by saying that he didn't want a relationship and then ignored me for 6 weeks.He then got with other girl, it broke my heart and made me think that it wasn't that he didn't want a girlfriend, I just wasn't the right material. They soon broke up but me and him had a huge arguement and I told him I could't be mates, it just hurt too much. I have tried to walk away but he keeps contacting me, ending up with the same consequences - IN BED! I don't konw what to do, I just wish he would leave me alone to move on. He doesn't want me so why won't he let me go?
2006-07-31 00:26:48 · 13 answers · asked by simply_cjay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your going to continue taking all that he dishes out and as much as you want to take until you get to that point where you wake up and realize this is not meant to be. I've been there and I know what your going through... sex is a powerful thing and it will win out much of the time even over common sense... What you need to do is have that final talk with him that means exactly what you say.... never again. It is never easy to do this but it will get your point across. If you need to change your phone number, if a letter shows up in your mail box, shredd it or set it on first to make sure you don't read it. it will hurt everyday that you do this but it will get easier as you stick to your guns. He already gave you his answer the first time when he didn't want youk that is the answer you need to remember not this new person all of a sudden pining away after you. He is getting his cake and eating it too... what are you getting?
2006-07-31 00:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by kitkool 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Firstly he told you he isn't ready for a relationship with you and that should stick in your head okay.......he is fond of you but in a friendship manner, he is also using you i am sorry if you are hurt but that is the truth..you are his firned and also his lover. Tell him how you feel, maybe he didn't speak with you for the 56 weeks because he though that you would get over him within that time period, obviously you haven't. I would talk with him......
2006-07-31 07:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by kida_w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need support from ur frend or family for sure.
If u think ur frend will support u ,ask her to help u in getting rid of him.
He is a big mistake in ur life .Just forget him.Its really hard.But u need to get out of it soon bcoz he is mearly using u just like a tissue paper.
Be strong and bold.
2006-07-31 07:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by ashmi r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is NC...No contact. If you continue to sleep with him, he will keep coming back. You're throwing that guy a bone! :) Don't talk to him and don't sleep with him. He'll go away when he realizes that you're not there for his sexual pleasure.
2006-07-31 07:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't being forced to speak or sleep with him. The problem here is YOU. STOP talking to him. STOP meeting him. STOP sleeping with him. Be strong and show some pride for yourself. YOU can move on if you ALLOW yourself too.
2006-07-31 07:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you keep letting him into your bed. Stop talking to him at all until you can control yourself. Guys will always take as much as you let them.
2006-07-31 07:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wont leave you alone because you dont want him to leave you alone...
try to say no and mean it. it wll hurt a little but i'm sure you'll recover.
you will not find the right guy if you continue to let him do that to you.
2006-07-31 07:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by garre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may seem harsh, but you allow him to walk all over you. You can't change him but you can change your reaction to him.
When he contacts you, tell him you are busy and don't see him otherwise he will continue to use you and you will continue to be miserable.
2006-07-31 07:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats stops u from moving on literally, it sounds difficult, but just try it move to another place make new friends & get on with yr life
2006-07-31 07:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by dereckdsouza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take control and dont let him take advantage of you. everytime you see each other just keep walking, if he calls dont answer he will get the point sooner or later.
2006-07-31 07:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by been there done that 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋