After going out I am at home and he calls me and ask me do I have this one guys number (who can't stand me at all and I'm sure he knew that), I tell him no and ask him why, he wanted to call him so he could watch simple life with him. I told him no again and then he dismissed the conversation but before he hung up
did confront him once again about it only to be bombarded with laughs and "do you really think I was serious?" I said "well, yes" and then he laughs. I asked him again was he gay and he said "Yes, I am gay" I asked him why is he with me and why did he date the girls he dated, he said he doesn't know...only to be followed by a laugh. This type of conversation was repeating for a while. So I told him that I don't want to be with someone who is gay, "If that's what you think, honestly, I do think it's pretty messed up to just walk away like that but suit yourself" He hung up the phone and I just left it at that. I'm still confused. Could that simple life guy be his bf?
2006-07-31 00:03:16 · 9 answers · asked by uglyvanity 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Or am I just exaggerating? If this is some prank this isn't the right one to pull. The simple life guy and him "play like their gay lovers" also, and they do touch either's bums. The simple life guy really does not like me, we were hugged up once and he "jokingly" said "get off of him, he's mine". I just looked at him with a puzzled face. But the simple life guy really cannot stand me...I just don't know
2006-07-31 00:05:42 · update #1
2nd answereI am worried about what he thinks because I definitely have feelings for him! This could just be some big game and I am sitting here accusing him of being gay, you never know,that is why I am worried. Confusion worries me and I didn't want to do that but I had to because there was no point in being with a gay guy.
2006-07-31 00:10:20 · update #2
So now there's another guy? This is like a flashing billboard for you. You just gotta let this one go. It's a shame your bf isn't being mature about this, but it could be possible he's on the DL and hasn't accepted it about himself, like, "I'm not gay, I just like sex with guys." Also, if he's in a particularly homophobic culture, like, unfortunately, the African American culture, he's gonna try to "have it all" -- girlfriend AND gay nookie on the side.
I know it sounds like it doesn't make any sense, but that's what a lot of guys go through before accepting themselves, me included. The best thing you can do for everyone involved is stop dating this guy -- stop being his cover -- and *at most* be his friend through this tough time. But he needs to be honest, and you need to be not deluded.
P.S. Any man who watches the Simple Life is gay by default! :)
2006-07-31 00:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, A hetrosexual man would not play at being a gay. I am hetro myself but I understand that some guys have a much stronger feminine side than others. Remember there is not smoke without fire and if they are into **** touching then who knows what else.
:-(
2006-07-31 07:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by The Misfit and the Fool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already got your answer, the boy told you he is gay. Take him at his word and go find you a real man. Even if he isn't gay he isn't treating you right by playing those mind games.
2006-07-31 07:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by Billy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GAY OR STRAIGHT DOESN'T MATTER
You don't need that type of a person playing mind games on you.
Lose him and find someone serious.
I'm a straight guy, married too, with kids...
2006-07-31 07:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop it like it is hot
and get with someone else
for all you know you are dealing with a demon
and they can be quite confusing
2006-07-31 07:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Queen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be with him because he is gay, then why are you worried about what he thinks?
2006-07-31 07:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure seems that way - that they are a gay couple I mean. This seems especially so if your then ex-boyfriend admitted to you that he was gay.
2006-07-31 07:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by Answers Anyone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this relationships sounds far to complicated for me. anything worth pursuing should bring you more joy then confusion, worry and concern
2006-07-31 07:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by mjohn28497@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE SOUNDED confused dont you think?
2006-07-31 07:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋