ihave not stopped him seeing his children and will not argue with him in front of them but when they get upset it upsets me
2006-07-30 23:41:25 · 5 answers · asked by womonit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok honey read my first answer.
Next thing is to sit down and tell the kids that it just aint gonna happen!
Kids need love, sure, but what everyone forgets is that they need certainty as well. If they see you crumble every time he opens his gob they will begin to doubt you.
Be absolutely resolute - and I MEAN absolutely!!
The kids stay with you full stop. Incidentally, if the moron sees that you mean it he will stop using that weapon against you.
xxx
2006-07-30 23:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ian H 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you are trying to do the right thing.
since he is being funny/arguing in front of the kids with you is there a neutral place where you can exchange the kids ie you drop them off at grans and he collects them from there - if he doesn't see you he can't argue with you!
Make sure the kids know that it is ok to enjoy spending time with their dad.
Good luck x x
2006-07-30 23:48:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it he doesn't feel the same about arguing in from of the kids??? Why don't you try writing a letter, suggesting that for the sake of the children, you come to some agreement? You might need some sort of mediation - speak to your citizen's advice bureau and see if they can help you.
Parents who mess with their kid's minds scar them for life.
2006-07-30 23:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it does. you should work on not arguing in front of the children
2006-07-30 23:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has happened to my friend and her children don't like going with there dad , tell him that it upsets them
2006-07-31 08:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by carolyn m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋