Why is it that when you don't have something, you want it but when you get it you don't want it anymore?

Question

Like for exmple, if you like this girl, but she doesn't like you. Then you try as hard as you can to win her heart and when you finally do, you realise then that you don't want to be with her anymore. Why is it so?

Answer 1

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It is a matter of reaching for the golden ring; once you have it, you notice it is worthless. Wanting a special girl, just because you don't have her is like grabbing for a beautiful rose and ending up with a handful of thorns.

Answer 2

One explanation is that it is human nature to love challenge, excitement of conquest. The thrill of winning someone who doesn't show much interest is sometimes the sole reason for liking that person.
But that also changes after. When you encounter someone that you will really fall in love with the situation becomes different. Love is a stronger emotion than a simple thrill.

Answer 3

hi,
listen first of all people like them if u take the example of girl u like that girl it is only just attraction and not anything first of u clear that love comes in anywhere and u don't know some of the agreed man they want that in any how when u get that thing then slowly u not like that thing it Ur dream to be something when u dream is fulfil then u think it do want be anymore that why u satisfy what u get don't go a agreed person OK be happy what u have in Ur life it is a god gift

Answer 4

If you care to read deep enough you could come to some rational conclusions on your questions. I will attempt to show you in me.
Please observe the need of companionship. First concern would probably be to OBSESS ON OBJECT of choice (woman, position, riches). I read that fantasies of posssession (of women, position or riches) beg for methods to use in acqusition of the object (steps necessary to achieve the best of all possible outcomes).
When these "steps" are initiated they are attempts to gain CONTROL of the ultimate goal. When one form of CONTROL does not work, another must be instituted immediately to bring the appropriate response to attempts of acqusition (further CONTROL).
What I'm saying is your issues are about CONTROL.
When all your plans and devices work to bring you your object of desire it is a done-deal and its now time to set goals for something else to CONTROL ... so your newly acquired POSSESSION becomes unimportant and a new goal takes its place, but, the method does not differ. The new issue is again CONTROL.
Whatever the new goal is your wish to obtain it is simply another attempt at CONTROL.
You are young, self-serving, obsessive and possibly sociopathic. Why do I say that?
You have stated, in plain english, that you want CONTROL over objects or persons. When you obtain this CONTROL, or, acqusition you morph back into step one again. This tendency to REPEAT demonstrates your inability to grow beyond your adolescence behavior restriction.
I suppose, the very last thing I will bring forth is that you will be stuck in a CONTROL mode until you MATURE INTO ADULTHOOD where you can LEARN to "cherish, admire and/or preserve, love and protect."

Answer 5

You like the challenge of obtaining the impossible. Once the challenge is gone the want goes away.

Answer 6

The 'challenge' realized is no longer the compelling goal. And Man is naturally curious, fickle and dogged.

Answer 7

you like the challenge of the hunt. once conquered, you are satisfied. the problem is the lies you have told along the way to get your prey involves a person's heart.

try hunting squirrels!

Answer 8

Why does the grass look greener on the other side of the fence????
You always want what you don't have. Envy is the word. You don't need it but you want it.

Answer 9

Perhaps you are into the thrill of the hunt or the joy of acquisition and not really the item or person.

Answer 10

I tend to agree with stick but not quite as vehemently. I do think you should try some counseling.