Please help me...............I am an alcoholic...........I know I am.........its in my genes. I want to be a social drinker or not want to drink, one of the two. I feel like I suck when I drink but I cannot stop............when someone offers me a drink I take it and I cannot say no........I have a full time job..........I take care of myself and my child.........I am doing well financially.........but I cannot stop drinking...I don't want to go to AA meetings.........I know people who have gone to them and I don't think they would work for me.........I don't want to talk to a bunch of people but I would like to get some advice.........I am somewhat of an intelligent human being and would like some advice from someone who considers themselves to be the same.........I think I need help, could you please?
2006-07-30 23:19:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Its nice to realise that you have a problem, once you admit to yourself that you have a problem you are on your way to recovery, .....first avoid places and situations where alcohol is served, ..........see your Dr for some tablets I know of one brand campral that could help in curbing your desire to drink........
a tactics such as picture of a person been breathalysed by the police,on your fridge door can help........... letting your friends know that you have a problem with ethos,........... request not to be offered an alcoholic drink,....... if you love your child don't let him or her live a life of fear as living with an alcoholic is uncertain and unconventional due to the ups and down........ as well as depression that is triggered by alcohol. .....wish you luck.
2006-07-31 00:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
I'm not, but my boyfriend has a drinking problem.
The thing is that it doesn't matter how intelligent you are, you can't do this alone, you need someone to monitor you. Get a therapist to figure out why you drink and why you started in the first place, it might not be the same reason. Go to AA. Do it for your child. She deserves a parent who can give her their full attention, not someone who puts alcohol before her. How would you feel if child service took her away?
If you think AA won't work for you you can ask your therapist what would.
And please know that you can never be a social drinker.
2006-07-30 23:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the genes... What a lame excuse. I'm glad you recognize your problem and even though you don't want to I strongly suggest going to AA meetings. Do you really want to give your child the same excuse you have been using? I know that excuse is BS because my grandmother was an alcoholic and my mom was worried that she was an alcoholic, too, but then she realized that to become an alcoholic, she would need to drink alcohol. I have never seen my mother drink more than 2 sips of alcohol and that was at a fancy dinner when her sister pushed her to. Her sister, however, is most likely an alcoholic although she doesn't acknowledge her problem. I strongly encourage you to stop your problem before it gets out of hand! Good luck!!!
2006-07-30 23:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kitkat Bar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this seriously... If you see honestly which group of people in the whole world has the lowest rate of alcohol consumption, gambling, as well as other psychological diseases it is undoubtedly the Muslims, because Islam forbids alcohol and gambling totaly. Therefore Muslims dont drink alcohol even as a social drinker (except for the few black sheep, which all communities have a few of). So if u become a Muslim and start hanging around Muslims I can guarantee that within a very short while you will be like one who never drank alcohol. I am not preaching - search for the statistics for yourself on the internet about which community has the least amount of consumption of alcohol, gambling etc.
2006-07-30 23:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As the son of an alcoholic and drug addict, ask yourself:
is your ego getting in the way of you going to AA meetings? Why won't they work for you?
If you truly want to get better, you need some humility first. It's not a bad thing. Christ was a humble person.
AA will show you what's good in you and help you control the bad.
2006-07-30 23:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Professor Campos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three simple steps and you are done:
1-Drinking is not cool! You do not need to drink to be social. The same applies to smoking also. When you see people drinking do not envy them but feel pity.
2-Try not to be in heavily drinking environments and if you are there drink sodas, but always remember drinking is not cool.
3-Choose a strong point of you. This can be your religion, your daughter, or your mother. This point will give you power to challenge your bad habit. You should think that God or your daughter or your mother or even your imaginary lover will not like to see you drunk.
2006-07-30 23:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mustafa D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least try AA--if it doesn't work for you, try other ways. One possibility would be to see a counselor. There are many mental health clinics which offer counseling for alcoholics, either as a group or one-on-one. If you don't get along a counselor, keep trying until you find someone you can trust.
2006-07-31 04:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate which you're dealing with this. One piece of advice i ought to furnish you, given which you're 12, is to look ahead to an afternoon while he comes homestead sober and tell him which you truly want to chat to him approximately what he's doing to himself and the kin and how that's hurting definitely everyone alongside with himself. maximum alcoholics do no longer comprehend that they grow to be a diverse guy or woman while they drink and as a result harm those around them with out regard. in case you attempt this and it does not artwork, then attempt entering into touch with a counselor. an mind-blowing form of the time, they're going to advise what you will desire to do. I didnt have an abusive father, although, I had approximately 4 inebriated uncles that i became around maximum of my early life. i comprehend the abuse, whether it have been verbal or actual. i'm sorry which you're dealing with this truly.
2016-10-01 07:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by robinette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one way to help yourself but it is not that pleasant.
Go to your family Doctor and ask for the drug "Antabuse" Not sure of the spelling.
What it does to you.
When you drink alcohol, even just one drink, it will make you sick.
then you should be able to turn away from it.
We used it in the Navy for the guys that couldn't control themselves.
Good luck.
2006-07-30 23:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At social functions, drink something that looks as though it might be alcohol but isn't. Eg Ginger Ale/Canada Dry or a tonic water.
2006-07-30 23:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by XT rider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you, but maybe ask a Dr. for some Medicine, that can get rid of your urge to drink. There must be something, for you out there. And don't forget, it's a Disease, that needs a Dr"s. attention, they can give you something, I'm sure. I wish you luck, finding the answer to this.
2006-07-30 23:42:40 · answer #11 · answered by sqishieears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋