My cousin is currently living w/ me and my girl, and my girl has given him a specific timeframe to stay. When this time runs out, he will not be able to afford a car and a place, but he has decided that he would rather have a car than an apartment. He said he could stay in the car until he saves up and can afford a place to stay. Tell me what you think, so I can have some other opinions to show him. I had to post this one again. Please answer truthfully.
2006-07-30 23:10:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
I'd rather an apartment, then I could catch public transport.
He could find a share apartment, they are generally cheaper so that could be more affordable.
2006-07-30 23:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by chicgirl639 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say 'your girl' i suppose you mean 'daughter' as opposed to 'girlfriend'?
Be that as it may, i wonder how it is that you could leave such a decision with someone who has less life experience than you (if u are referring to your daughter) and if you are referrring to a girlfriend, why do you let a stranger decide the fate of your blood relation.
It comes across at lacking in empathy and compassion that you have let this decision out of your hands, you might as well have tossed a coin. How would you like to be treated had you been in his shoes??
If you try to treat others as you would like to be treated, you'll find the world is actually a much nicer place than would otherwise be the case. I would let your cousin show you a budget plan and suggest to him to find an extra job, or ask a friend to put him up in a garage...or something, where will he wash, a car aint comfortable, he'd be going in to work not being physically 'up' for it, he risks going further 'downhill'...help him as far as you can but lay down rules for things he does which might annoy. set ground rules and be a bit more reasonable about his stay. i'm not judging you, just trying to help put things in perspective, i think its noble that you're helping him to begin with, God bless,
Whizzdom.
2006-07-31 07:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by Wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone has right to make decision for his life and be responsible for it.
From your description: it sounds to me your cousin wants to get a car and still stay with you until he save enough money to move out. Did your cousin made promise to move out before the specific time? If so, he should keep his promise and move out.
It may sound cold, but if he feel he rather stay in a car, then that's his decision. It is probably not easy to insist him to move out when you know his situation. But at least he can choose a car or an apartment, and he had made his choice.
Don't make him feel as he still has chance to stay longer! Your daughter probably has her reason not wanting him to be around.
2006-07-31 07:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things take time,& I truely feel for him, because getting a car can be cheaper, then an Apt., now a day's. For instance, first, last, & security, can be near impossible, plus, a credit check. I think, that was why he resorted to saying a Car, instead. Do you want to see your family living out of a Car? Isure wouldn't. If you are paying the Rent, then tell your g/f, to give your Cousin some slack, as he needs someone's help. Nobody want's to be Homeless, & that's just what he'll become.!!!!!!. I feel for him, if someone doesn't help him, with this issue. God Bless Him.
2006-07-31 07:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by sqishieears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your cousin needs a job. He should get the car and not worry about a place right now. I had to go through this very same thing when i was a teenager. I lived in my car for a month and a half(but i was also working) during the coldest winter month of February. It sucked but i made it through this tough time by knowing that it would work itself out in the end and it did. Now I own my own house and never sleep out in the cold anymore..
2006-07-31 06:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ray H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try this option i do not know if it will work in your country
let him try to get a job which has night shift so that he can be in the house when you and your girl are out working.
Car he can take yours since he is in the night shift and his work would start only by 10pm by the time you and your girl are back.
2006-07-31 06:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by Loviingly_Yours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His life...his choice.
If living in a car is OK with him, so be it.
We are all responsible for our own choices that way we reap the benefits or suffer the consequences.
2006-07-31 06:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lives in his car, that means he showers at your place.
2006-07-31 07:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by Professor Campos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is his decision
2006-08-04 02:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋