if your 17 year old daughter lied to you about her boyfriend. you would be mad and take it out on both of them. but what if the boyfriend doesn't know she lied to you. and if he did he would till you the truth. and you trust the boy friend and not her because she tell you he did know. whould you still let him date her.
2006-07-30 22:41:18 · 6 answers · asked by i love my son wyatt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is the daughter trying to find out how much crap i'm going to be in when my mom and boyfriend finds out i lyed to both of them
2006-07-30 22:47:30 · update #1
i lied about his age. told them he is 19 and he is 21
2006-07-31 11:52:45 · update #2
Well, I'm not your folks, so they may treat this differently, but if you were my kid, you would be punished for lying, and while I would appreciate your boyfriend's honesty, that probably wouldn't erase my concern over what the lie was about.
Whether or not I would let you keep dating the guy would depend a lot on what exactly that was, and whether or not you both intend to repeat that again or not. If you both intended not to repeat that, then I'd want to know what specific actions you were going to do to make sure of that...and see you following through with those specific actions.
This is tricky for you, because you've lost the trust of your parents and your boyfriend. You're going to have to work hard to earn that trust back.
2006-07-31 05:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by daisyk 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess it would all depend on what exactly you lied about. If it was just a little white lie, probably not so much. If it was a huge lie that could get you hurt, absolutely you're in BIG trouble. If you want an honest answer from a mom--you have to give more details on how big the lie was.
2006-07-31 08:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I raised three kids that grew up finally!
Anyhow, you are the parent to the 17 yr old girl. You are not her boyfriends parent. It is hard to say what I would do becasue I don't know what she did.
It isn't always good to pull in the bf becasue it then becomes a triangle. If he sides with you, she will dump him. If he faces up that they both did this then depending on what they did you set a punishment. Consenquece
With teenagers I learned to have things in writting.
Make a list of agreements (aka rules) then write down the consenquence if the kid breaks that agreement - also known as mom & dad's rules. You will elimiate arguments because your daughter knows the rules. YOu have to be consistant. She will know that you eventually give in, she will finght until she gets you to give in. but, if you are consistance she will no longer needs to argue with her.
If you think the bf's parents know about this, then talk to them. Be prepared for them to not believe you or be mad at you. Parents tend to stick up for their kids. You arn't the boys parents. Let them handle him. You do what you need to do with your daughter.. Remember you are not her friend, it is your job to grow her in to a responsible adult.
2006-07-30 22:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow really your not a very good parent. You cant say YOU CANT EVER SEE OR TALK TO THIS PERSON. Thats just all i can say right now.
USe a condom next time wow u dont deserve kids.
2006-07-30 22:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by pogieboy316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm giving you a paddle, Cause it seems you up shi* creek without one now. Good Luck.
2006-07-30 23:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by the_saint1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok honey
2006-07-30 22:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by chirag k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋