getting married at a wrong reason(teenage pregnancy), is there any happy couple out there?

Answer 1

My wife and I have a 10 year old and a 6 year old.
She was pregnant within 3 months of us meeting. We don't even know the date we met as it was really just sex.
11 years on we are very happy. Soul mates.
We laugh at how it feels like we have been together for only a couple of years not a decade. Time flies when you are having fun.
I recently quit work to work from home with her as part of our self employment.
We have a friend that tried it, and it was a huge mess.
I think my wife, kids and I are very, very lucky.
I would not advice people to try unless they can openly talk about what their goals are.
Where do you want to live? How much money do you want to earn? Who is going to work? How many kids? Are you going to smack or not smack? circumcise or go natural? Are you going to talk through problems, or is yelling and silent treatment acceptable? What happens if someone cheats?
My wife and i discussed all this and more.
And layed a plan or a guide to getting along.
We discussed how our parents parented us. What we liked and disliked.
We have always been on the same page. And if we had not layed in bed together and dicussed all these things we could have come unstuck at anytime.
Good luck, and maybe see a councellor to help you go through it. And both you and your partner could also go to parenting classes.
Learn as much as you can. The more you know about relationships and parenting the wiser you can be about the choices you need to make.

Answer 2

this girl i used to work with: She has a semi-good marraige. They're together and get along, but it's mostly for the kids. She used to take the day off early to go do things with black guys. The funny thing: I didn't even know she was married until I got her unintentionally got her in a little trouble when I met her husband. He came by and asked "Where's *(*****?". I replied: "Off with some guy."
So, granted I don't know a lot of marriages that began for wrong reasons like that, but i'm betting they usually don't work out.

Oh, yeah! One more thing. My exgirlfriend who's 17 got married a few months ago. She wasn't pregnant, but she did get married for the wrong reason. Shes an idiot and wants attention from me. She had her chance. She broke up with me to date a guy who thought he was a vampire. A vampire!!!!! While she's young, her husband is 27. I know.... I give 2 more weeks and someone will be sick of somebody. I don't talk to her, but I doubt very seriously that marriage willl work out.

Oh yeah! After I submitted the answer, I thought of one more. My cousin is not married, but has a steady boyfriend with 2 kids. One more on the way. She works at Sonic and has no plans or methods of financially bettering herself. He doesn't have a job. While they might like each other (notice the word LIKE), this relationship is a ticking time bomb.

Answer 3

Married at 15 to 19 year old boyfriend. Had son 6 months later. Still together almost 25 years. Many hard times, plenty of great memories, lots of hard work. Happy yes..........we had 3 kids, and even have a grandson now. Yes, you can have a happy marriage, but only if you are willing to be a survivor of the hard times!

Answer 4

I've been married twice before, so I don't care if I don't marry again, but I won't say that I "won't" marry again...it's not a priority at all, but I would love to have someone to share my Life with... I've been single for a long time now (the better part of the past 11 yrs) so I'm comfortable with it just being me, if that's how the rest of my life goes...I have friends and family and interests, so it's never boring (but sometimes it gets lonely)...

Answer 5

Seek help. Get counsoling from local professionals. Let your parents know you want some counsoling.

Be honest about your feelings both to your parents and you boyfriend about your conserns.

You can probably find some good advice here and some bad advice too. Not everyone here is an expert so use caution.

Answer 6

My boyfriends parents married and they are old now. They are happy. They were an older teen couple. They had some bad times with being poor and some bad times with conflicting religions, but are fine now.

Answer 7

my cousin got married because of pregnancy. her husband and her are currently arguing a lot and questioning each others commitment. they have been together almost 3 years. my friend got married because of pregnancy. less than a year married and they divorced.

Answer 8

I'm happily married. My wife and I are on a mission to repopulate Canada and America. More children, more love!

Answer 9

I've bin also bin pregnant out of wedlock,bt it doesnt cam to my mind dat because u r pregnant u will indulge ur self in early marriage for wat Legitimacy of ur child?ur child wil still be legitimate as long as his father acknowledge him.N now we are still living together happily raising our son,bt he's not forcing me to marry him nt because he don't love me but because he respect my decision n we both believe dat marriage is not a basis to have a happy life,n raising our son....I just do believe dat u will not truthfully know a person nt unless you liv together in 1 roof.i hv 2 cousins n 1 sister hu had married cause they tot that is it dat their husband are perfect,until they found out the reality after lining together for a year.now they are sepated,n for women is very hard to commit ur self on marriage,son to say there are certain culture dat if a woman will find her destiny while still married to dat specially wen ur country is not practicing divorce the whole eyes is on you,not unlike for men.So don't let men put you down its tym for women to wake up n say ; HEY MEN WE ARE JUST EQUAL,YOU CAN DO IT,WE CAN DO IT MUCH BETTER.......

Answer 10

I Think There Is
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